What part of your life has been the saddest/hardest? How did u overcome/survive it?

Question

What has happend to you that has set you back years, that has made you curl up in a room for weeks and never want to see the light of day again. What has been so bad, as to make you suicidal? What has made you feel like some worthless thing?

How do you live with it day to day, or how have you overcome your loss/regret/fear.....

Answer 1

finding out my mum had six monhs to live 1 monh prio to by 21st birthday, aslo prior to that i had been dignossed with a chronic kidney disease, an finding out i was pregnant and having to hav a termination, as a result spliting with my soul partner, i found the hardest point though knowing i was gonna loose my mum knowing she was never gonna see her granchild, from the moment my mum was dignosed i was over come with very bad depression and took a very serious overdose, which i hated the medical proffesion for because they brought me back to life, i guess looking back on that time i had to forgive them because it gave me the chance to say oodbye to my mum, and be there on her day and yes notice i say her day ,because it was about my mum and how she changed so many ppl lifes since she came in to this world, anyway i never did get really over it and was in hospital for most of that year, big mistsake again becuse i started arelationship with somebody i knew did not want to be with, unfortunatley and not so unfortunatley , i feel pregnant with my beautiful daughter, a year before me mothers aniversery, which lead to my depression getting worse and hating the fact that my mom would never see her or should i say i would never see my mum's face of what delight,she would have had.

anyway my depresion went and set in quite hevily by he time a gave birth, they wanted me to go into hospital with her but i wouldnt give in to them trying and trying to proceed with the whole thing being a single mum, grief and servre deppression and post natal depression, until i was sectioned under the mental health act, i was jst curled up in a ball not wanting to live until 5 monhs on i was given ect, which by th time 6 monhs was up i was well enough and felt like i could comback anything. until 10 months on my dd was dignossed with terminal cancer, yes you got it the depression hit me very very hard, i was also dignossed with ptsd(post trumatic stress disorder), again i wa sectioned under the mental health act and was in hospital and almost dying to the point i was not even alowed off the bed to go to the loo, i stoped drinking and eating and just rembermer wishing god to take my soul. in the end a doctor was called in so they could give treatmnt against my concent this mmeant putting drips in my head and feet bcause my vains had collapesed, i was also but onto a high dependacy unit, where i was sedated so they could put a nasal gastric tube in, six months on they felt my body was strong enough to take a ga for ect, but in total i was in hospital for about 1year.

this did not stop the depression though, until i had a new shrink who realised i was not just suffering from depression i was sufering from manic depression. i must say at my worse i was in hospital for 2 years not giving a dam about life or my poor daughter, just laying not communicating to anybody.Then upon my realise i talked to my shrink who agreed with me to find m a counseller, im not saying this totaly helped me and it never helped my over come the grief i felt when i lost my mum. but i must say i guess most of it is time because for the first time in 11 years last christmas i did not feel the awfal pain and grif that normaly engolfed me that ususaly made me want to kill myself.

seeing spirtulists has also helped me and yes ppl may say they can pick up on stuff but tell me how the heck a spirtulist knows how u tried to kill yourself?

anway with this and i guss time an the righ mdication i has helped me still be here today i guess and believe me not for the want off trying not to be, but ive gone on to uni and im almost but baring one steep away from being there once again.

i hope this helps answer your question an i can only guess buy you asking this sort off question you are going through a smiular situation.

good luck. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx hope you find the answers you are looking for, but i thin only you can find that,xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 2

I think the hardest for me is always grief. Losing somebody you love, having a large part of your life suddenly taken away. It is one of the most difficult things that any of us has to face in our lives. Part of overcoming something this terrible is accepting that there was really nothing you could have done or said, no way that anything you could have possibly done could have changed or caused it. This is very difficult in itself.

After that and the loneliness and despair you begin to realise that life is short and can end at any given moment. You begin to see that if this terrible event had never occurred then you would not be as strong or be the person that you grew to be. That your life may never have changed course, you may never have grown up or come to look at life as being precious and of value.

Terrible things happen in life- maybe sometimes they happen for a reason or to teach us the value of life and the world around us. Some misfortunes we bring upon ourselves some are thrown at us by fate. The fact is though that all we can do is learn from these experiences, make the most of every second and appreciate what we have.

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Answer 3

I have to say that my biggest problem in life has been coping with my family. I bet there are tons of people out there who'd love to have a family like mine. Most of the time I don't mind them either, it's just certain things they do that really get to me. I've considered running away from home but decided it was a bad idea. I decided suicide is better instead but after almost succeeding (the doctors thought my recovery was a miracle) I decided I'm not going to run away anymore. I've started living my life with minimal consideration for all who stand in my way. All the pains and losses I've had since then somehow washed over me. They hurt, but it doesn't bother me. I somehow felt that the pain was an important part of life and not something I should fear or run from.

And I decided to banish regret from my life. I swore that I will live my life in such a way that given the chance to do it all over again, I would do the same. So far it has worked for me.

Answer 4

this may not sound as important as others. But i gave birth to my healthy son last February i started to get really angry and refused to eat/ dress/wash anything i was diagnosed with depression needed medication. Anyway my whole personality changed my apperance changed, my marriage was on the line, but eventually things are now on a even keel. Now i can't understand how something so wonderful as my son gave me so much unhappiness. He wasn't my first child either he is my third. I have a better relationship with all 3 of my children and family now. I respect everybody and i don't take anyone or anything for granted now. I even tried to kill myself thank you for listening you actually made feel good. Thanks.LOL

Answer 5

The hardest thing that has ever happened to me was when my cousin passed away. He was one of my best friends. For along time i couldnt sit though school without crying at least once. By brother helped me a lot during this time, well we both kinda helped each other, cause my brother was really close with my cousin too. I still cry today and dont want to do anything when i think about him, but you just have to realize that bad things happen to good people sometimes, and there is nothing you can do to take that back.

Answer 6

It would have to be the time I found out my ex husband cheated on me--- I felt like my whole world fell apart---I thought he was my all and my everything--- the only thing that gave me strength to carry on --- my 2 beautiful children---they were only 3 and 9 mos old at the time--- if they weren't around I dread to think what may have been-- For the longest time I felt like I failed as a wife and a mom for not being able to keep my family and marriage together--- but as time went on I realized I was wrong-- he was the failure not me--- I am now a much stronger person because of what happened--- I have even managed to fall in love again with someone new!!!

Answer 7

well your question has obviously hit a chord with lots and lots of people, we've all had sad/hard/devastating things happen to us and I believe it's simply the human spirit that keeps us going. My worst thing was when my mum died of cancer, I sat with her for the last few hours, it was truly horrendous watching my mother breathe her last breath, but on the same hand, not something that I would ever change, she was there when I took my first breath I was there when she took her last, I felt very priveleged but completely overwhelmed by grief. My poor father just lost interest after my mum died, they had just celbrated their golden wedding anniversary, eight months after I lost my mum, my dad died obviously of a broken heart and I was the one who found him dead in his bed.

Life is cruel and hard and very difficult to explain, but somehow we all get through the bad stuff that life throws at us and makes us stronger and better people. I have four wonderful children whom I love dearly 12, 12, 10 and 5 and in them I see that life goes on no matter what happens.

Like everyone else, I don't believe that you ever get over the bad stuff that happens but u just learn how to deal with it on a day to day basis. Just sit up take a deep breath and say '' omg life is a miracle and i'm gonna grab every opportunity to live it.''

Answer 8

Finding out that my partner who was my life was cheating and having to move out of our home, i was devastated and thought i wouldnt survive. I took one day at a time and really looked after myself. It turned out to be a good thing because it made me quit the job i felt trapped in and found another that i love and i met my husband who is 1000 times the man my ex is. Each day got slightly better and each day past was one more that put time on my side, it really is a great healer. I reminded myself that one day i would be happy again. You are always stronger that you think you are and find strentgh when you feel like giving up. Best wishes i hope you get through whatever has happened xx

Answer 9

Hardest/Saddest:Wow, till this day am I still overcoming it...and it's amazing how time has passed...losing a family member on 9-11 at the WTC in NY. I thought I never wanted to see the light of day but just looking at my children's faces gave me all the strength that I needed. Time, it just takes time... it would of been beneficial if I had participated in support, counseling, etc..in which eventually I will but as for now I grieve in my own way. Everyone is different. It's great if you have a supportive friend but even they can't understand what one is going through, helps to talk though. Writing journals, reading self-help books (grief, etc) however one is able to express themself is helpful as well (art,hobby,etc)
Saddest: Losing my friend last week, leaving a baby son & wife behind
*We Shall Never Forget Them*

Answer 10

i was abused by a family member since the age of nine, to be honest ive never really gotta over it and its had a huge impact on every relasionship ive had since. i have trust issues, sexual issues, etc.

i had a mate that went through the same and she never goes near men and i doubt she ever will. i went the other way i went out and slept with as many men as i could. i think mainly to try and block out what was going on. i had an affair with a married man 4 around 3 months which best explains my messed up opinions on sex and relasionships.

some things r just hard to get over, but im sick of fear and regret, just wanna get on with my life as best i can

Answer 11

I spent 10 years trapped in a violent and abusive marriage, he was a drunken controlling man and i could not have fallen any lower. wasn't allowed out, not even to the shops alone regularly raped and beaten all while trying to protect my 3 innocent babies born from evil acts against me. One night i was strangled till i passed out and when i came around i was lying in a pool of my own bodily fluids and excrement, vomit blood u name it it was all over my kitchen floor....that was the day i fought back, reported him to the police and he was prosecuted. The following months were harrowing times as i crashed in and out of despair, grief and terror. Slowly with determination and lots of love from my family and few friends i have once again discovered the 'me' that existed before he came into my life, I'm happy, my children are happy and I'm finally alive once more. Yes many days passed where I'd rather have died and yes i did try suicide but that is not the answer to it, i urge anyone in such a position to stand up and fight to escape as life is so much better when you do. good luck to all lost souls and bless you all.xxxx