My boyfriend..now fiancee and i have been together for 5 years and we are going to get married at some point but he never spends anytime with me and if we do get a chance to spend time together he just sits there or watches tv, he never wants to do anything. Yet with other people he has all this energy. Not for me though.
2006-08-15 04:14:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Maybe when he wants to come over and watch tv don't be available (and your tv unavailable also) and then go out and do things with your friends. If he continues to not want to do anything with you then this is a foreboding of your life to come. He will not want to do anything after you are married also and if this is what you want then stay with him, but if it isn't then you need to get him out of your life and move on with out him.
2006-08-19 04:15:51 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering why you would spend 5 years with someone like this without speaking up long before this. A married couple does not need to like to do ALL the same things, but there should be at least a few activities you enjoy together. You need to let him know you would like to get out once in a while. He can't read your mind. If you have never complained, he may think you LIKE just sitting around & doing nothing. If you cannot resolve this issue, I would seriously re-think the marriage.
2006-08-15 05:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you want to get married to him? Remember, people get worse after marriage. If he's already like this, then don't expect him to magically become a Don Juan when you marry him. Only he can change himself; you can't do it for him.
Just directly ask him why doesn't he want to spend time with you? Maybe he's just doesn't like many of the same things you do. Who knows what his reason is. The only way to know is to ask him. If you two don't have any common interests, then you probably shouldn't be getting married.
2006-08-15 04:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by Natasha 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you must have allowed him to get this way with you, if you are too clingy he won't want to spend time with you. To me the answer is quite plain, if he has lots of energy with other people then maybe he doesn't really want to be with you, maybe it's just a convenience. If I were you I'd give him some space and start doing things with your friends instead of relying on him.
2006-08-15 20:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a relationship issue it is best to address it b4 you marry.You have to take a good look at yourselves and get honest with each other.Love does not always guarantee happiness, do you think you can be happy the rest of your life in this situation? Obviously not or you would not have to ask the question.If a person loves you he will want to be with you in all areas of your life.
2006-08-18 18:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by la kira 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all tell him how u feel anout this 'not spending time" thing an if he changes then go on an get married but if he hasnt tell him how u feel an that u r rethinkin the marriage.
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2006-08-15 04:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to rethink this marriage thing then. He is obviously not "the one." People in relationships should be on the same page and mesh well.
2006-08-15 04:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by TropicalSun 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't like to do the same things you do? Have you asked him to go someplace he enjoys? If you have and he is still like this, your relationship has problems.
2006-08-15 04:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is all males trust me they are sitting there wishing they had no responsibility. it's in their genetic makeup. go flirt and feel better
2006-08-15 04:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by hyacinth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋