My child is 4 yrs. old and she throws fits almost 24/7!
If she doesnt get what she wants when she wants it she will throw herself on the floor and cry and scream and kick her legs.
if i tell her to go to her room she will scream no!!
What should I do?
2006-08-15 04:09:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she doesnt eat sugar that much maybe 1 peice a day.
2006-08-15 04:17:32 · update #1
i dont spoil her
2006-08-15 04:18:48 · update #2
who you gonna call SUPERNANNY
2006-08-15 04:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by diane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the hardest thing you'll ever have to do, but the only thing that will work - IF - you keep at it.
Ignore her. At 4 years old, she hasn't got the stamina to keep it up. Believe it or not, tantrums are exhausting!! You can absolutely not give in to her. No matter how long it takes, you have to stand your ground. When she does calm down long enough, approach her and very quietly ask what is she wants from you. If it's material things, don't give her an automatic no. Ask her why she wants it or thinks she needs it. Eventually you will come to a bargaining agreement. She will learn that by not screaming, she will get a little leeway. Try not to make things black and white, let her see there are shades of gray. The tantrums stop, and you will discuss it. If not, she gets nowhere. PERIOD
Good luck.
2006-08-18 16:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by mamajo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children go through different stages as they develop. Right now she is testing you and how she can end up getting her way. Sit her down and talk to her in a way that she will understand, tell her that this is not an acceptable behavior and find a way to punish her when she acts this way, perhaps take away her television privileges, or a favorite toy each time she does this. Be consistent in whatever you do, giving in just once will open the door again for her to continue her behavior. If all fails then seek the advice of a child psychologist.
2006-08-15 11:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by tigerpaws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter did the same thing (she is now 22) but one day she was taking her hissy fit and my mom was at my house. My mother said get down on the floor next to her. I was really confused. As my daughter was throwing a tantrum my mom said do exactly what she is doing. My daughter was confused that her mommy was doing the same thing she was doing. After a week of me looking like an idiot, screaming when she screamed & kicking my feet when she was kicking her feet, she finally gave up with the temper trantrums and we never had theat probelm again.
PS>>>It actually feels good when you take the tantrum..lol
2006-08-15 11:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spare the rod & Spoil the child...A good spanking never hurt anyone, but not all the time. You might want to take her to a professional for some help. There maybe some underlying problems at school, or daycare that are causing her to act out at home.
She is old enough to reason with and understand that when she acts this way you are not going to tolerate her behavior and punishment will follow. Clear out all her favorite toys , no TV, no outside etc.
Don't give in to tears and stand firm with punishment. Also talk to her teacher and see how she is doing in school...
Good luck!
2006-08-15 11:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a classic power struggle. She sure has you wrapped around her finger, doesn't she? Don't spank or hit her...it will only teach her how to be aggressive and that violence is all right. She is trying to control a situation. Remember, from a toddler's perspective, the world orbits them.
You might try videotaping her tantrums, and playing them back for her (with others present) and laughing about it. Maybe a little shame about her bad behaviors would work....
2006-08-15 11:32:14 · answer #6 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then maybe call Supernanny or just don't spoil her a lot if she starts with the tantrum then say if u keep up with that i'll might as well give u anything.
2006-08-15 11:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY MOTHER TOLD ME TO IGNORE MY DAUGHTER STEP OVER HER, SHE WILL QUIT, 5 LONG YEARS AND 2 MORE CHILDREN SHE WAS STILL DOING IT. I PUT HER IN A PANTRY( WITH NO LOCK OR LATCH) TOLD HER TO KICK THE WALLS SCREAM HER HEAD OFF AND WHEN SHE GOT DONE SHE COULD COME OUT, AFTER 5 MIN.OF SCREAMING AND KICKING SHE CAME OUT TOLD ME SHE WAS SORRY AND NEVER THREW ANOTHER TANTRUM. WHEW!!!!!
2006-08-15 11:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spank that lil heiffer jk
You can't just send her to the room DOn't you watch Supernanny or Nanny 911
2006-08-15 11:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mary 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she does this because she knows it will work on you ignore her when she does this or if you must send her to her room and she says no pick her up put her in her room tell her your the boss you said no and shes in her room because she told you no it wont take long for her to realize that it no longer works
2006-08-15 11:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by steamroller98439 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and try to talk to her after her tantrum, calm her down, and explain to her what she is doing is wrong.
If this fails, just take way her toys
2006-08-15 11:16:41 · answer #11 · answered by oh-so- Laid-back 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋