whats wrong with me?

Question

why cant i seem to keep a decent relationship goin?
if i know the guy is into me...i brush him off
if i know he isnt i i pursue
even when i try to stop this..subconciously im still doing it...

Answer 1

I understand you well. Most at times, it happens even subconsciously and it's like you have no control over what you're doing although you are always aware of it.
This could be for a number of reasons, first, it may have something to do with your past. Some experiences which shaped you in ways you did not immediately realise or some stereotypes that are buried real deep down inside. Healing for such takes time but if you work at it, you can beat it.

I would also advice that you get a guy friend, (not romance), just a good guy you know you can trust and talk to and with time as the issues come up, you discuss them with him and let him help you.
Get someone you will be able to open up to, but who will not judge you for what he finds inside; who will respect and cherish you as a friend unconditionally.

This could also be as a result of the fact that when you know someone superficially (maybe just met a few times) the seem like "The One". But just like with every human being, when you get to know them better and get close, you begin to see some weird characteristics and as is often said "Familiarity breeds contempt".
Also, always remember, no guy is perfect. The question is whether a guy is perfect for you.
Wish you the very best

Answer 2

You must be a very competitive person, you like a challenge...just keep in mind, if you continue to throw away the keepers your going to end up with what you are pursuing, a loser..and it will result in a challenge to make it look like you made the right choice but everyone will know you haven't and the only one your fooling now is yourself...start with a decent relationship and make it better...don't pursue someone who isn't in to you and try to make it decent.

Answer 3

Sounds like you have low self esteem. You think the guys who are interested will eventually dump you because you aren't good enough and you pursue the "safe" ones who aren't interested in the first place which reinforces your fear of rejection.

No relationship worth having will work before you learn to love yourself and know you are worthy of other people's affection.

Get to the root of your self esteem problem, with professional help if necessary.

Answer 4

U need a badboy to check ur azz and u will be happy for a while then u will complain that he treats u bad and want out and complain where are all the nice guys at but, still at heart u will always want a badboy so there

Answer 5

Dont you just hate the human mind anyhow I do it all the time even when they do really love or they don't I brush everyone of Untill i met my fiance who can basically kick my *** (not literaly)
when it comes down to being or putting up with someone like me so it all depends on who you find and how bad u want it subconciusly i dont trust anyone including her

Answer 6

Classic narcissism. A relationship isn't about what a person can do for you....it's finding your worth in how you can make another person happy.

Answer 7

I'm guessing your problem is actually very simple! You are a bit too picky, and haven't found the right person yet, no biggie deal, hang in there!!!! :)

Answer 8

You have a self-destructive personality.

No guy is good enough for you, but all men must adore you.

Only you can change this behavior.

Answer 9

I do the same thing..we are just not ready for a relationship.

Answer 10

Try getting therapy