Why do men say "I love you, I'm just not happy with me right now"?

Question

This is too long to go into details, but here's the gist of it. Four years, 1 son together (3 yrs old), and 4 of my own prior to him. He has his own life and his own independence, I don't smother him at all. I pay more than half of the bills in the house. I take care of myself, look more than adequate for a mother of 5 and do all I can to fulfill his needs. I've dealt with his hobby away from home that has taken money from here, which is why I took a job (I also wanted to work, but after the youngest was in school). He just says he's not happy right now. I'm not all that happy either, but I thought families worked through tough times, not jumped ship. Do I bother trying to get him to stay (I want him to), or do I just throw in the towel and let it rest in the hands of fate? If he goes, I can't let him back in again, fate can take a flying leap. My children have to come first and revolving doors isn't what they need, all the more reason to stick it out, right? Any advice is appreciated!

Answer 1

I smell a cop out. Seems to me that he needs to get his head out of his *** and grow up. People do go through tough times and stick it out but it takes two to make it work. If he wants to leave let him---he doesn't know what he is missing and probably won't until your gone. If he doesn't want to leave and wants to work it out talk about seeing a relationship specialist or a marraige counslor

Answer 2

ask him what about himself it is that he's not happy with. and what it is about you that he loves. also, don't be afraid to ask your KIDS what they think!! they are much more perceptive than anyone gives them credit for, even if they are young. also ask yourself exactly what it is about him that thrills you and makes you feel wonderful...........or is it just that you don't want to be alone? Take as much time as you can, as long as he isn't abusive, try to get him to open up. Good luck!

Answer 3

Ans is very big question......