2006-08-15 03:42:20 · 17 answers · asked by missy 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just curious. My husband will yell and have crazy eyes and puff up his chest. He will repeat himself constantly. He looks like he will fall over with a heart attack. He has never gone further than yell... come to think of it, the worst is just how he looks when he is mad. How does your partner act when mad?
2006-08-15 05:40:54 · update #1
We hardly fight, I was just wanting an insight in other relationships. Thank you for your concerns though.
2006-08-15 05:42:45 · update #2
If a man or a woman tend to yell alot and verbally abuse constantly then they do need some professional help. It is easier to walk away then to instigate matters worse
2006-08-15 04:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If a man were to ever hurt you physically - he has definitely crossed a line and needs help. One time is too many - no matter how many excuses we make for him or how many times he apologizes.
Beyond that, you need to use your own judgement. Does he scare you? Does he threaten you? Does he break things? The link below gives a domestic violence hotline number that you can call if you need to talk through your situation and what to do.
As for anger management - if he believes he has an anger control problem then he needs help. But unless he can admit he has a problem, he isn't going to get it and no meeting or mandatory counseling session is going to help.
If you think he has a problem and he is unwilling to get help - the real question is should you stay or should you go? If you have reason to be scared - then that is an indication that you should go until he is willing to admit he has a problem and get help.
Good luck.
2006-08-15 10:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It canbe anything from a crazy look in his eye, to throwing things, punching walls, and hitting you is the biggest red flag. I've been there and done that and I will not put up with that, especially if you are not married to the guy. I would leave and tell him to fix himself and then come find you. You can't change him, he has to be able to change himself. Please listen to me, I know what I am talking about. If you are asking this question, I think he proabbaly needs help already... Best of wishes and take care of you!
2006-08-15 11:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he even acts like he will raise a hand to you , throws things kicks or throws a pet in when angery at a person, and BEYOND ANY QUESTION IF HE THREATENS YOU. Also if he is verball abusive to you like calling you a b--- alot. Many wait until they are actually hit-WRONG! By the way this also applies to women. My hubby has a permanant knot on back of head from ex wife because he wouldn't stand and argue with her- she seems to enjoy arguing. She knocked him out cold with cast iron skillet as he was putting on a jacket to take a walk. My ex made excuses for his temper.
2006-08-15 10:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by mamapricebear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, up until recently, I was dating a guy who loved Burger King. I on the other hand, hated burgers (which he'd make fun of) and wanted to go to a fancy restaurant on my money and bring him along. When he found out that it wasn't fast food, and that I wanted to trick him into it, he threw a total fit. When you give a guy a present and he throws a fit, you should dump him. So I did just that.
2006-08-15 10:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by minerva779 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone is abusive and needs serious counseling if:
1. They are physically hurting you AT ALL.
2. They are physically controlling/isolating you: not allowing you to leave the house, not allowing you to leave their presence, not allowing you to use the telephone, not allowing you to have healthy friendships and social life with other family members or friends, not allowing you to drive, completely controlling you financially so that you have no funds at all to act independently of them.
3. They are verbally abusing you to the extent that they cause you to lose all self-esteem and feel worthless.
4. They are emotionally controlling you and causing you to live in fear with threats or intimidation about harm to you, harm to another family member (like a child) or harm to themselves (threats to commit suicide or get drunk again, for example).
These are only a few of the primary warning signs, a longer list is at the link below. If this is your situation, please GET HELP from a friend, family member, church or school leader, or call the National Domestic Violence/Abuse Hotline number below. A phone call cannot hurt you, and it might help a lot. First priority is not to help HIM (that's codependence, NOT love), first priority is to get yourself, and your children if you have any, to a safe place.
2006-08-15 10:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Fogjazz49-Retired 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think everybody has their own view on what is too far but if he hits you or makes you feel bad about yourself than that is too far.
It's a cycle that starts and can creep up on you.
If he is doing either of these things ... dump him and move on.
2006-08-15 11:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whenever his anger is on a regular basis. It's too far if you ever feel threatened. He needs anger mgmnt. whenever he is in his
right mind so he'll get something out of it.
2006-08-15 11:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by anitababy.brainwash 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since the way he looks is you concern, do you know whether or not he has high blood pressure? That would be worrisome.
2006-08-15 14:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by TechnoMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the question first arises of a potential problem. Don't wait. It will only get worse.
2006-08-15 11:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋