im friends with this chic, but havent had much chance to have a good conversation for a few months
when we used to chat heaps i found out she had a bf, and i withdrew from major flirting and that.
its been a while, and she has been (how to say it nicely) looking at me, more than just a friend in a room, (i see a friend in a room look once nod to say hi, thats it, i see her, will look a few times, well a lotta times, she does same)*i still assume she has a boyfriend tho*
i am really nervous about coming on to strong if she has a bf, but havent got free time at uni to have a major convo, in which to casually bring it up.
if she was walking or standing alone, would it be innappropriate to walk up to her, knock shoulders and say in a flirty way,"hey, how are ya, so still got that boyfriend?" , and give a big smile?
i also wanna look very confident, or at least become more confident. (side question to the ladies, does nervousness really kill the guys chances
2006-08-15 03:24:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Assume she has a BF. This is what guys have done with me. Say something non threatening about him. Like what are you and your BF doing this weekend? Realy non threatening. Nothing about her body or creapy.
2006-08-15 03:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i think your proposed action sounds very smooth and effective, if you can pull it off like you described. It communicates that you like her, she's desirable, etc, and no matter whether she's still got that bf or not, she's prob. gonna feel flattered.
To the other question, I would say that if a guy is nervous, it would make me (or the girl, whatever) nervous as well, not a great way to start things off. If you be open about it though, like make a joke about "taking to a pretty girl like you makes me nervous" then that will break the ice, and probably put you both at ease, because the girl will be flattered, and then do her best to make you feel comfortable.
I hope this helps you, good luck!!
2006-08-15 10:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls like it when guys come on strong. Confidence is key. And think about it, the worst she could say is no that she already has a boyfriend. Even if that happens, at least she will know you are interested if something comes between her and her boyfriend. Good luck!
2006-08-15 10:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by Balzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no nervousness devinately doestn't kill chances. for me at least it let me know that he really liked me and wasn't just a player. nerves are usually a sign of sincerity, so don't worry about that.
i don't think it's inappropriate to ask her about the existence of a BF in that manner. she's flirting with you because she likes you, obviously. i know i can't speak for all girls, but i sure don't bat my eyes at a guys i don't think is hot and i with whom I wouldn't be interested in sitting down for a flirt sessions ... guised as deep conversation. ;)
just be careful not to hurt her or yourself ... or his BF, if she has one. if she does, she might turn you down. also, if she does she may still want to be with you in which case you should probably advice that she break up with her current BF in order to avoid hurting him unnecessarily. sometimes ppl just don't work together and there is chemistry somewhere else ...
good luck.
2006-08-15 10:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by Natalie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thinking too much. Forget bout looking confident. Feel confident. You seem to be a good guy who respects relationships so you got my t-up. Just say tell her how you feel(if you want to) and ask her out.
If she is single, then its all fair game. Though cheaters may still consider paired up to be 'fair' game.
2006-08-15 10:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by kaiserchief 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a perfect plan. And a little nervousness is sweet. Just try not to be such a wreck you can't even speak.
2006-08-15 10:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you talk with her,at a pause say, "So hows (BFs name) been doing lately?" and she will say, "Oh, he's great," or "actually we're not together anymore," if she says the first say :You guys still together?"
Being nervous is normal but it will make oyu look less appealing and weak to us girls
2006-08-15 10:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by vspinkloverlygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax, she's just another person. Ask her if she wants to go do something. Don't bring up the other guy. If she's still with him, she'll let you know.
2006-08-15 10:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by Randy Marsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a bad strategy...
it sounds like even if she has a bf, she is STILL interested in you, so I would just be confident and it sounds like all will fall into place...
just make sure you can beat up her bf
2006-08-15 10:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by Frank M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and flirt then maybe she will get the hint u like her more then just friends and if she gets ur hint and is ok with it then good luck i hope she will go out with u then
2006-08-15 10:29:40 · answer #10 · answered by Kristy h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋