live in an area thats antisocial and full of thugs, im 29 years old male and i sit in my flat and all i think about is girls and relashionships. and its really annoying me and winding me up that my few msn contacts and my myspace contacts are not contacting me or getting in touch, its making me grit my teeth with rage and anger. the few contacts i have are girls both on myspace and msn. and their not even emailing me or leaving me any messages....i keep going on myspace lookin at theeir profiles, willin them to contact me..but their not!!...im incredibally lonley...i cant just go out because i have panic and anxiety. i have alot of dreams hopes and aspirations with my life.. like findin a partner livin in nice surroundings...havin employment..even emegratin...but i dont no how ima reach these goals. please dont anyone ask me to find jesus, i would like dignified serious answers please
2006-08-15
03:24:45
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my dream is to emmegrate to the states find a usa girl and live in nice surroundings. now how can that happen for me?
2006-08-15
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update #1
Many people run from the thought of turning their lives over to Jesus...and I know I have suggested it to you a few times...but I, and so many people worse off than you, have changed their lives so wonderfully, and in a miraculous fashion, that it is not surprising that myself, and others would want to share that happiness with you.....at this point in your life, you probably don't have the faith or know enough about Him to see His salvation..But best wishes to you, I am still going to pray that you find happiness
2006-08-15 04:13:25
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answered by MotherKittyKat 7
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Get a job if you are able to work...or volunteer, this is a great way to meet new people.
Move! Getting out of your present environment will help.
Check into public housing if necessary, but get to a smaller city, preferably in the south where folks are a lot more friendly.
Overcome the fears which are holding you back. You are young and wasting youth on fears.
Getting off the computer and outdoors is the first major step....is there a nature park or walking trail, or lake nearby? If so, try a walk, really look at nature, breathe deeply...and remember to be thankful for a least one thing in your life each day. Being grateful does lead to a more positive state of mind.
Find some male friends...too much estrogen going on in your life, dude!
If you are not in counselling, please consider getting it. Also there are some good yahoo! groups which deal with depression; check them out and join one. You will recieve moral support for your daily problems, and meet new people as well.
Remember to make a list of your major goals, and post it where you can see it. Each day make a small list of minor goals to accomplish, as you do them and cross them off your list, you will gain some self-confidence which is necessary in order to meet your long term goals.
2006-08-15 04:16:55
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answered by shortfrog 5
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Move...changing your environment is probably the sanest thing you can do for yourself at this time and place.
Getting counseling from any and all centers that you can find for free or barter is next.
Get your BUTT off that depression state by being more social in "Real Life" situations, one on one, "Mano a Mano" as the Latins say. Go out and humbly try to make friends when ever and where ever you can.
SOLITARY PEOPLE are usually the most screwed up, usually lacking basic social skills that are necessary to make a well rounded physically and Mentally healthy person.
Go out and volunteer in your neighborhood or even other neighborhoods which are more sound than yours. Learn to give more and you'll get more back in return.
If you don't want to find Jesus because you are tired of people trying to force him down your throat then read the great Philosophers and other writers of great passion.
I think that these can start you off to more involvement in life which seems to me is what you need.
2006-08-15 03:45:42
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answered by oldtimer 4
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You will first need to find out what in your life is the cause of your anxiety and depression. If you can't afford a DR. then at least try to get to the root of it yourself. It will more than likely be something that happened to you as a child, when your emotion were still forming. When you start having anxiety attacks, and don't have meds, you can take deep breaths with your eyes closed. picture something that you find soothing and calming, you will begin to feel your heartrate slow and your mind will quit racing enough that you should be able to control your actions. your rage is coming from your fears. if you can ,please get help.
2006-08-15 03:31:14
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answered by notyours 5
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ok....antipressants would be risky for youthful ppl under the age of 17 to take. As for drugs which could help with stress and melancholy...I even have had success with Effexor XR and Trazodone. the two are used to handle the two indicators you stated. I even have been clinically determined with medical melancholy and unhappy (Social stress illness). The Effexor and Trazodone have allowed me to function returned. i'm in sales so having stress approximately being in social circumstances somewhat wasn't understanding genuine nicely. It sounds to me such as you need to communicate to a specialist in regards to the topics you're having. be helpful to do an excellent sort of learn and get knowledgeable in regards to the different drugs attainable on the industry top now. Cymbalta is meant to be solid for treating the two the emotional & actual indicators of melancholy. additionally be lively on your scientific care and don't be afraid to seek for help. you will get help and stay a typical life. i'm!
2016-09-29 07:14:41
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answered by ? 4
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Get off the darn computer man! Living in the cyber world has enslaved you! Get outside, join clubs or groups (other than computer groups), take college courses, etc. etc. . You need to interact with people in person. I'm not trying to be mean, just giving you my opinion!
2006-08-15 03:33:28
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answered by Anonymous
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finding out what you really want out of life is the first step. Find what interest you and pursuit it passionately. Maybe a job that will make you happy, a girl that makes your day or a hobby. Life is what we make it. Good luck..
2006-08-15 03:35:35
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answered by pogi 2
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look in your city for centers that serve people like us they have them here in states and I know they have them in other countrys
2006-08-15 06:22:58
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answered by deno112 2
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