She's on all types of depression medication, anxiety medication, and her hands are always shaking. She just moved into her own place (she broke up with her bf) and it's been like 3 weeks and she still hasn't unpacked anything....she cries all the time, nothing I say to her makes her feel better. She's been on and off of cocaine I know. I feel so bad for her, I want to help her feel better, but what do I do? Everything I say to her makes her more depressed, nothing motivates her, I feel like she's spiraling down...again. She will be 30 next month, I'm 25 and my life is totally different than hers. I'm married with 3 kids, she's single with 1 kid, I can tell she is jealous of my family and whenver she comes over it seems like she just gets more depressed. I don't want her to feel this way, I want to help her I just don't know how she thinks, what encourages her and motivates her. I feel like I just want to give up and deal with my own busy family. But I don't want to do that.
2006-08-15 03:16:31 · 5 answers · asked by amyvnsn 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I'm going to call you Amy since that was the first thing under your picture. You are a very "SPECIAL" sister I can sure tell that. She is very lucky to have you and one day she will realize that. Try this, instead of talking at her and telling her what she needs to be doing listen to what she is saying and I mean truly listen because there could be many things that shes not saying that if you hear the rest you may pick up on the things she's not saying. Depression is not a fun place to be!!!! It's not easy to understand eather. I got married Dec. 2004 @ 41 yrs. old for the very 1st. time I had been living alone for yearssssss! I married a man that I had no clue was a jealous man. If he could keep me at his side day and night he would. He checks my phone all the time if I go anywhere like the groc. store he wants to know who I saw and who I talked to. I no longer go anywhere with my best friend because he shows his butt. I have a family of friends in the next town that is about 10 min. away, I invited him to go over with me one night to visit and he really acted up, so he is no longer welcome in their home and I don't blame them at all. Now if I call them and think maybe I can run by for a few minutes, they act like they are busy or have something going on. They (1) don't want him there (2) don't want me to have to take the crap for going alone. I have been Depressed for quite awhile myself although I am on no medication, probably need to be, but I would give anything if I just had someone I could talk to. Doesn"t always matter if the person responds, but someone to listen. It's hard for someone that has a happy and good life to relate to someone that does not. You can't put your feet into her shoes no matter how hard you try or how bad you want to understand and know where she's coming from. So I would just keep telling her that You Love Her VERY MUCH and that anytime day or night if she needs you no matter what that you are there for her. Don't judge her because everyone makes mistakes, that is how you learn. If she asks what you think tell her, but let her know that she has to make the decisions and you will hold her hand every step of the way. Tell her that you Believe in her and most of all God believes in her. I got down on my knees aabout 2 weeks ago and asked God to take control of my life, I put my problems in His hands and said, "God you have to take control, I can no longer do it myself." Girl you would not believe how much better I feel. (I'm going on a family vacation at the beach this weekend 3 whole days and my husband is going to Pennsylvania on the big truck--"without me" amazing grace! I am not trying in anyway to preach to you, but if you ask God to carry you He will. Not long ago when things had gotten really bad I pulled away from Him and ya know what -----that's when I needed Him most, and He was always there I just wasn't listening. I AM NOW.!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep up the good work Amy because you are an AMAZING SISTER!!!!!!!!!!! Good Luck to you and your sister. Why don't you suggest a sister day no kids just you and her. Doesn't matter what you do or where you go as long as you're together.. My Best friend Tammy and I are taking a day real soon for the same reason.
2006-08-15 05:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by sammie-john 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage her to see a Psychiatrist. It could be that she is taking two or more medications that are working against each other. It is very very seldom that a competent physician will give several different kinds of anti-depressants at the same time.
2006-08-15 05:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tried the popular methods like taking her out on vacation or calling for a party to bring her out of depression, I would suggest take her to a serene place of worship, no matter whichever religion you belong to, talking to god and stepping away from materialistic needs for few moments a day sure will spring her back.
2006-08-15 03:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by R R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you have to correct your self first ,how you knew that your sister is gealous of you..may be your way for helping is wrong and make her to feel worst..you can look for the nearest and loved people to her and also try to be honest and pure in your feeling..and about my questtions in color ..it was to know more knoledge on that because as i knew there is realtion between our loved coclor and our charecter..thanks.
2006-08-15 04:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her stuff she likes it would cheer me up i know
2006-08-15 03:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by alzghiasi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋