I'm very messed up and just don't know what to do.?

Question

I am so so low at the moment. Even when I try to do something to take my mind off things, it doesn't seem to work and I just get upset. The main reason I am upset is over a girl who has messed me up so badly. I think about her all the time. It hurts so much that I just don't see her anymore and have no real explanation as to why that is.
I have even started seeing a psychiatrist lately. Nothing seems to help. I am so unhappy with my life as it is. I start uni next month too, which I am very scared about, and am so worried I am not going to be mentally right for it.

Answer 1

Poor you, when this happens you feel like all the world should stop because thats how you feel. What can anyone say to you to make you feel better because no answer will be right. Please go on to Uni as this will be your saviour, and you will meet other girls there (not what you want to hear I know) but your life will return quicker than you think, kind regards.

Answer 2

Congratulations on getting a place at university! Wow, well done. Have you heard the saying when one door closes another one opens? Well, a whole new life is opening up for you! I know that is is terrifying but don't hold yourself back by thinking of that girl, it is her loss. Close that book, it wasn't a nice story, now you have the opportunity to experience a whole new world, grab this opportunity with both hands, it is a lifeline. You sound a sensitive person, but that is a positive quality, it means you care about people. Turn that to your advantage, use your emotions to do something creative, write about your pain, think of those great writers and poets! The great artists used their emotions to paint masterpieces, why not you?! You have worked so hard to get where you are now, don't let anything spoil it or get in your way. Fresher week is just around the corner! Be brave and go for it! Once again, Well done! Be proud of yourself!

Answer 3

Is there no one you can talk to like a close friend or family member? Maybe someone who understands you will be able to help. You are so lucky going to uni, I never got to do that but would have loved to. I know it will be scary but just think of all the other new people who will be starting the same time as you, they will be in the same boat. Just try and get on with your life, you will meet lots of great people at uni and maybe even a new girlfriend who will appreciate you for who you are. Keep your chin up and have lots of fun.x

Answer 4

Uni is going to be the BEST thing that's ever happened to you!

I was so scared about going to Uni... I was dumped by my gf just before I went too... I went to Uni and had a totally S*** time for the first night - I cried and cried and was so lonley... Then I decided to go down to the bar and just started talking to people... Ever since then I've met so many great friends and had a couple of really fun and great gfs and everything fell into place!

The first few days at Uni are so scary... Just get in there and say hi to people... even if it's just a quick 2minute conversation introducing yourself! - Offer to buy someone a drink (it's only gonna be about £1 for a pint!) Remember - EVERYONE is it the same boat as you and are probably just as scared...

You'll have a brilliant time - I promise! :o)

Answer 5

I know how you feel. The only way you can crowd out the thought of her is to put something else on your mind. Get really involved in your work, hobbies, things like that. Nothing will take her off your mind like a new girlfriend. Find someone, but make sure she is good enough for you. No dumpster diving.
(That's not to say any woman belongs in a dumpster - just some will be fit for you and others, not. Stay away from the ones that aren't for you.)

Answer 6

Emotional issues are always hard ones to help with, but I suggest that you do something, anything to get your mind off of your pain. Go out with a friend, draw, read, play a game, etc. I wont tell you that it will all go away, but you never know, if you give it the chance it could get better. Another good tip is trying not to dwell on the fact that you are in pain. And even though youre without this person its okay for you to enjoy things, so let yourself :) Good luck and dont give up.

Answer 7

Stick with the therapy.

In time, you'll look back on her more objectively and see a weak, messed up, flawed little girl.

Find other females, it'll help you realise that she wasn't really so special, help you find new bonds with other women, and help you move on.


You're going to be just fine.

You don't have to be 'ready' for uni. You just have to go, experience it, and let yourself grow as a person.

Try to adopt a mental attitude of being confident and friendly.
Don't worry if you're not always getting to that place very effectively though, you don't have to be perfect.

Answer 8

Women can mess you up, but it's only temporary.

At some point you realize it can only work when it is mutual. Since in this case it appears it is not, you'll find no comfort in unrequited love. Those feelings will eventually reverse and you will come to realize you are more important than a failed relationship ever could be.

At that point, another relationship has a way of sneaking in on you. The difference is that one is better because you are a better person for it. We rarely make that mistake twice.

Answer 9

First things first...theres no need to worry about Uni...the first year of Uni is generally the best year of people's lives!!! Partys galore...and meeting new people...this leads onto the second problem, this girl. I garentee that after the first 6 months of uni (or maybe even half way through freshers week!!!) you will be thinking 'Who...OH HER!' there will be so many girls that you wont know what to do with them all...keep your chin up mate, things will work out if you try your best to keep focused and be true to yourself.

Good Luck

Answer 10

You might not want to but have you tried going to the doctor? I suffered from depression for 10 years before I finally went to the doctor to sort it out and now 5 years later I find it much easier to cope with life so it was definitely the thing to do! It might not be the girl whohas sparked this feeling but you feel that you do not have the strenghth to deal with the situation because you are down. Depression is not a state of mind that can be snapp[ed in and out of. It is a chemical imbalance in the brain and if it is not treated correctly it might not just fix itself.