My boyfriend is working out of the country. His phone calls are more like a friends call. He says how much he loves me. He is a workaholic and admitted the only 2 relationships he had, ended because he was busy with his work. I respect his hard working and his goal, but I am on the back burner. I have other men asking me out, but I love this man. It hurts to feel like this. He calls 3x a week and is at a computer throughout the day and emails once a day. I feel hurt and neglected.Should I move on? It has been 6 months since I've seen him.
2006-08-15 03:09:03 · 14 answers · asked by kitty cat 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He emails once a week, typo.
2006-08-15 03:15:03 · update #1
You guys should have a serious chat on where you are going with this relationship. It clearly seems that both of you guys are directionless. If you feel uncomfortable about being on the back burner, tell him about it and tell him how he can correct his errors. The only way to solve this problem is through communication and honesty. So, call your man and let him know how you feel. Best of luck amigo and let me know how it goes.
2006-08-15 03:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow hun, I feel for you. I thought I had it bad with my boyfriend giong to school 3 hours away, but thats nothing compared to your situation.
However, have you really tried talking to him about it? I know that love hurts ,but you have to remember to ask yourself this.
Would you be happier with him right now, or without him? Is he giong to be willing to call you more often or change his schedule?
The best option you have is to seriously talk to him about it. Tell him you need to be with him and he needs to make some sacrafices if he really loves you. And if he can help it, he will want to be with you all the time. Good luck,
keep us posted on this!
2006-08-15 03:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by Hey girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. In order for a relationship to work, two people should fit together like zipper teeth; snug. It shouldn't have to be work for a relationship to work out. And considering it's been less than a year, move on. Find someone who is willing to put their time in with you.
2006-08-15 03:16:34 · answer #3 · answered by Sagefrogg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are not comfortable in this relationship then i suggest u just move on, if he has admitted being a workaholic, then this behaviour will continue and u will keep feeling neglected so u should just move on
2006-08-15 03:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by vedz666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've met alot of women who fit in the same category as your male friend, and it never worked for me. If he's had two relatioinships end because of his work, then that should tell you alot. If I were you, i I'd date other people, but tell him that you want to do that. I admire you're wanting to stay with him, but hey, you can't wait forever, right?
2006-08-15 03:21:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love him stay with him, he dont email thoughout the day is because he is busy and some places will fire you for using the computer for personal uses.
2006-08-15 03:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its not working move on. hes trying to do something and if you dont understand that and are able to sit back and accept it move on. If you need more attention than you are getting move on. dont try to make him choose and dont nag him. it is what it is... deal with it or move on
2006-08-15 03:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by howdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of the country, calls every other day, and emails every day, he is serious. Are YOU?
2006-08-15 03:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by slashfinn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just mite need to. go "hang" out with a couple of guys. that way when the time comes u'll already have one lined up and u dnt ahve to be alone.
2006-08-15 03:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mike Dub 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you need more attention than he can afford to give you, you have to let him go. You are just making yourself suffer.
2006-08-15 03:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋