Should I stop trying to potty train?

Question

My daughter is 19 months I decided to go ahead and give it a try. I bought her a potty and a book. The first day I sat on the toliet and put her own her potty she peed (think it was just good timimg on my part) Then I continued every 1/2 hour to put her on it but she never did it that day again she always went in her diaper .The next day she peed in the toliet one more time (again I think it was good timing on my part) I made a big deal about and gave her a cookie . Then the rest of the day it was the same as before nothing. Now she will not even sit on the potty for more then one second she wants to play with the toliet. Try to take it apart or trys to get in the bathtub or try to get to shampoo bottles and etc.... I don't think she even understands what I want her to do. She didn't crawl untill 10 months and walk untill 15 months. Do you think she is just a slow learner and too young to try. Should I try againl later? I am wasting alot of money on pull ups.

Answer 1

I have twins - onw boy and one girl. The girl got it right away at two years old. I let them play with the potties. When they wouldn't stop playing with the potties, I bought a stool and a kids chair for my toilet and trained that way. If your child is playing with the chair or is not showing intrest don't push it. Children learn at their own pace. My daughter potty trained fully, day and night, by two and half. My son is still in a pull up at night . They are five now. He is just starting to want to learn how to get out of the pull up at night. Take your time. Let her lead.

Answer 2

You did the right thing. You let her know what its for and introduced her to it. Its really up to her at this point. Try putting her on it after every meal and see if that will help. I've heard about the potty party too. Check out that site and see if you think it will help. The main things are: Does she stay dry throughout the night? Can she tell you when she has to go? And does she show an interest when you go to the bathroom? If the answers are yes, then keep trying. She'll get it eventually.

My daughter is 2 y.o. and she still won't go. But she's moving into a different classroom where they take the kids every hour and I think that along with training pants, she'll be more willing then. I haven't tried the potty party yet because I just haven't had the time but it seems like a concept worth trying.

Answer 3

I started training my daughter when she just turned 2 years old, and at first like your daughter, she was doing great.. for a few days, then she just didn't want anything to do with it. Then main reason why I was working so hard on it w/ her was because that week she was starting her first day of daycare, I wanted her to be at least introduced to it. So when she started daycare, we worked on it at home, they worked on it at daycare, and nothing ever seemed to work, so finally, I had gotten some advice just to try and stop potty training her, that she will eventually pick up on it when she wants too, now, I know that ALL kids are different and I must of had great luck, but not any longer than 2 weeks later was she taking off her diaper and going to the bathroom on the potty, so my only advice would be to mabye just give it time, and go from there, don't discourage it, but don't push it either. Let her see YOU go potty, and say to youself "good girl mommy" and thats it. My daughter is now 3 1/2 years old, and she has not had any accidents since she the first few months of her going on the potty. It takes time, but with her being 19 months, I think it's great that you are introducing going on the potty to her. Even if its just introducing its great. I think everything just takes time w/ kids.
Good luck, and best wishes!!

Answer 4

Potty training...one of the hardest things a parent has to do with toddlers. Honestly, it sounds like your daughter isn't ready yet. Don't give up completely but don't push it either. Keep the potty in the bathroom and ask if she wants to use it but don't force the issue. Eventually, she'll want to start using it and being a 'big girl'. Food can be a good motivator but stickers seemed to work better for my son. Get a regular piece of paper or board and put your daughter's name on the top...every time she uses the potty let her pick the sticker (have a nice selection from a dollar store) and put it on her reward paper/board.
I know pull ups are expensive and I know how frustrated this can be but if she's not ready, forcing her will only cause her to regress later. Good luck to both you and your daughter!!

Answer 5

I waited until my daughter decided she was ready. She started asking to go potty and was potty trained within a few weeks. She was about 2 1/2 or so. She is 3 now and even gets up at night by herself. I just let her know what I was doing if she came into the bathroom while I was going and before I knew it she wanted to go pee like mommy. If you don't really mind changing diapers just let her go until SHE shows an interest in it. Pull-ups are WAY more expensive than diapers and it seems like they go through them twice as fast. Try buying some diapers with the stretchy waist in the next size up. They can pull those up and down just as easily for less cost to you if you want to keep up with the pull ups. Unless she needs to be using the potty for daycare or preschool or something I recommend just letting her go. She'll be grown up soon enough. Just enjoy your baby.

Answer 6

Hang in there your daughter will get it eventually. I thought my son was a slow learner too. I tried everything--Put food coloring in the water so when they pee it turns color, rewards such as treats, stickers, ice cream. What finally worked for my son was I would reward him with 1 quarter if he peed in the toliet and 2 quarters if he pooped. After about 1 month of that I would still reward him in the same way except if he peed in his pull up I would take away a quarter and same for poop. At the end of the week we would go to the store to buy a toy. Good Luck!

Answer 7

My daughter is 3 (27 months) and still not potty trained. We have no choice but to buy her pull-ups because she hates diapers and knows how to get them off no matter how we put them on her. She is just now starting to give in and use her potty. I started out telling her she needs to go potty before she got in the bathtub so she didn't make her bath water yucky - it actually worked! From time to time now she tells me she has to go potty and I take her to it. She doesn't always go, but it's progress as far as I'm concerned. I refuse to put a ton of pressure on her - she'll do it when she's ready. She wants to go to school very bad; I keep telling her she can't go until she uses the potty EVERY time and wears her pretty underwear ALL the time. Seems to be working.

The thing is, no matter what you do with a child, they're not going potty train until THEY are ready. To push them before then is only causing you both unnecessary frustration and hurt feelings. Is it really worth it?

And as far as the cost of pull-ups, look at it this way: the cost of a pack of pull-ups is actually less than the cost of going ahead and putting her in underwear and her having accidents constantly and doing a whole lot more laundry! And it's aslo cheaper than throwing away all of the diapers she's going to tear off (especially if she figures out how to tear the little tabs off like my daughter did).

One really helpful tool to try: the "Once Upon a Potty for him/her" video and book is a great help! It really is worth it, but be prepared to watch it repeatedly and read it ALOT!

My best friend's mom gave me the best advice on potty training: Don't obsess about it! I guarantee your kids will be potty trained before they start dating! (LOL - She's right!)

Answer 8

I think that every child is different and that they all do things at their own pace. You might be ready but chances are she is not. I would not try and rush her it might turn her off of trying. Also I agree with the other lady that posted the add about the panties. I let my daughter pic out big girl panties and made a big deal out of we cant potty in these. It took my daughter awhile to catch on. I take her with me everytime i go, also i let my daughter go without anything on for about 2 weeks and it helped because they are not wanting to pee on the floor and it gives you enough time to catch the fact that they need to go and you can take them to the potty, and then get her in a routine of using her big girl potty. Every child is different. I would let her tell you when she wants to start using the potty. Good luck. Courtney

Answer 9

You have good parenting instincts--trust them!

It doesn't sound like she is ready and so what? Don't give in to parenting pressure here--potty training will happen in the right time for you and for your daughter.
My husband still tells people his favorite line on this subject "well, you can start trying to potty train at 18 months and work at it for a year and a half or wait until about 3 years and be completely finished "training" in week..."
Everything will be fine!

Answer 10

You started good, but it really takes looong time at this age and there are setbacks. We started when my baby was 18 mo, it was perfect since it was summer - it made it lot easier to let her run naked and have potty right in the room so once it comes she could make it. I was also watching her and if she would start peeing I just put her on the potty quick. When she got the point I just had to remined her a lot, but I never foreced her to sit on the potty for longer periods of time - tried, but caused major setback, she didn't wanna sit on it for couple days at all. Whatever you do, good luck!