I tend to be somewhat insecure in the relationship with my boyfriend because we have broken up and gotten back together. I find myself doing the "girl thing". I will tell him I'm sorry for doubting his intentions, and then turn around and ask if we are together. We are in a LDR and I work with guys. I went out with the for poker and then found myself saying "I know you don't like me hanging out with the guys" (so then why go even if it's innocent)? I tell him I will be more supportive of our relationship and then I question his intentions.
How can I let go of my insecurities and learn to enjoy him? I really do love him and I want to marry him.
2006-08-15 02:32:28 · 4 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to just let things be. You have to assume that things are going perfectly with the two of you. Even if it pains you, let him go do his thing. Even if you think it may not be innocent, you have to believe it is. You have to trust him. And he has to be able to trust you to trust him. If you end up getting hurt in the end, you will move on. But it's better to trust him not to hurt you. People have a weird way of living up to expectations. Expect the best of him.
2006-08-15 02:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need some hobbies and a few girlfriends. You are smothering the man to death! No wonder he's trying to get away! Leave him alone and stop the constant whining and "insecurity" thing. Men are not attracted to whiney, clingy women. Find something positive to do with your time when you're not around him; or he's out with the guys. And stop the insecure behavior. You're only insecure if you CHOOSE to be that way! It's not working for you, dear, so put it away and start looking outside of this so called "relationship" for more ways to enjoy your life.
2006-08-15 02:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the novelty and a pair of hundred% attempt on the start of all relationships quickly fizzes out after a lengthy time period as you agree and get more effective mushy. that's standard i imagine for most couples to a particular degree. you assert he has replaced, yet have you ever replaced also that is making him act this way? If he's uncertain what you're on about then he's clearly no longer ignoring you on purpose, and if he needs to stay with you of route his destiny wondering is so that you'll stay at the same time, so why dont you concentration on what you take exhilaration in at the same time and making one yet another satisfied somewhat than attempting to discover faults such as your courting. Relationships will replace each and each of the time and also you opt to do diverse issues to save the spark there or you'll boost aside and lose interest of one yet another.
2016-11-25 02:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself by being yourself! If he can’t accept you ‘as you’ then perhaps it is he who should change!
‘Trust’ is important in any relationship. If you are doubting his intentions, and he isn’t trusting you going out with other guys, then perhaps the ‘trust’ isn’t there for either of you, and the relationship isn’t worth saving!
2006-08-15 04:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋