Has anyone else got a really nosey (not noisy!) neighbour and how do I stop her?

Question

I can't go in or out the house without her watching me. It's really beginning to bug me. It's not that I live a particulary exciting life either.

Answer 1

Get a pair of binoculars and wear them around your neck each time you enter or leave your house. Whenever you see her watching you just stop dead in your tracks and look back at her with the binoculars for about 30 seconds then continue on your way as if nothing has happened. Do not wave or speak. After you have done this 2 or 3 times I'll bet your problem will be solved. Continue to be a friendly neighbor and never mention it. If she brings up the subject just laugh. If you don't have binoculars a camera might work, but I prefer binoculars. I once had a neighbor who played his rap music really loud outside until the day I set up a DJ sound system on my side of the fence, pointed it at his place and cranked it up with a Dean Martin CD for a couple of hours. I have not heard his music since. I have found that sometimes when people are inconsiderate it doesn't do a lot of good to talk to them about it because they just become defensive. However, when instead they are given a taste of their own medicine they get the point fast. Beware that this approach does NOT build loving relationships, but it is 100 percent effective in ending the problem..

Answer 2

Stand outside her window and pull funny faces for at least ten minutes.

She will then get the hint and will stop being nosey when you return home or go out.

Seriously though, pull the most funny faces you can make but don't laugh.

When you're done, flash her a dirty look and then turn swiftly on your heals.

You could also spy on her when she goes out or when she comes home and see how she likes it.

If it still continues after a while, each time you see her spying on you when you either leave or enter your house, pull a funny face again.

I'm sure she will soon stop.

However, I just told my neighbour that she is a nosy b**ch and she soon stopped however we don't even talk anymore now because of it!

Answer 3

Do somthing that will shock her and hopefully make her not as nosey. I don't know what that could be though, apart from getting your boyfriend and snogging him infront of her to embarass her maybe? You could try also a huge grin and a wave to her anytime you see her staring at you. Depends if you get on with her or not. If you don't, just stop what you're doing and stand and stare back at her til she goes. This would really annoy me as my parents have the same problem in the courtyard where they live with nosey neighbours. Try the above suggestions and see if they work though! Good luck!

Answer 4

Her life is probably more boring than yours. And it wont just be you she watches, it will be everyone in the street. I used to have a child minder a lot like her. In turn, she was convinced everyone was watching her! She used to make us watch Home and Away with the sound turned on to mute in case next door were listening at the wall. I really don't think they were, and if they were, so?

And she used to make me wear a plastic bag on my head on the way to school when it rained.

My point is that perhaps she is to be pitied. So long as you take the usual precautions to your home (blinds, curtains, etc), do you really care if she watches you walk down the street? And look at the plus side, if anyone ever tries to burgle you, chances are she'll be watching and hopefully on the phone to the police!

Oh, and in the summer when she wanted to wear a skirt, my child minder used to don two pairs of trousers under her skirt and roll them up over her knees so no one would know they were there. I have some strange memories of that house...

Answer 5

Yehr !I have lived near to the 'village voice' for the past twenty years or so, so I know how you feel. They do make excellent neighbourhood crime prevention workers, but it is the popping out of the front door and stopping you as you are either in a hurry to go out or dying to get in and go to the loo that is the real bummer.
I have been known to walk around the block until she goes in, in order to avoid her. Yes, I do know that makes me the clown!But a victorious clown none the less.
My neighbour is, I suspect,very lonely and knowledge makes her feel important.
I don't think that they have any harm in them or that it is anything personal. They are best left to their own devices and just be thankful if they do scare away any nasties.

Answer 6

I had a neighbor like this and I just be-friended her and then she stopped being so nosey. If she wanted to know something, she would ask and it was up to me to tell her if I wanted to share. I actually feel bad for people like this because their life might not be very exciting so they have to 'watch' other's lives for their excitement. If you can't deal with this person in a friendly way, just ignore them and live your life to the fullest!!!

Answer 7

I am the nosey neighbour, I hover behind my curtains to see what the rest of the street is up to, number 11 just went out, where they going, why they going, would I like to go there?
we cant help it,
our lives are so boring it makes even the boring neighbours lives seem intresting,
try to stop us? im not sure you can unless you can make our lives more intresting, ohh I know buy us one of those red letter day things give us somthing intresting to do and yourself a few hours peace.
(we will be wondering what ur doing while we spend you red letter day thing though)

Answer 8

Yeah, im in your shoes, the best way is to be rude, like not waving your hand when she does,or act as if you didnt see her, another way is to fart loud when she is close by,
blow your nose loudly when she is out so she can hear the nose bothering you,
since i work most of the time from home when i move he ask me why i stay home and dont go to work? uh! and he sees me go in and out and he wonders what i do, well not everybody is burger flipper, well he is always asking when i buy something and he knows what i do, know the company i work for, and i told him loud and clear that i move from the other place cause i hate nosy people, and i think it really work, cause he is not checking on me anymore. and the best thing i did was fart loud i mean really loud, that i think put the seal off on his nosy way of life.being rude to some one some times is the only way, cause i was nice to them all the time and im no more mr.nice guy, im just a plain guy to them i say hi if i feel to, or turn the other way just to make him notice i hate nosy people. sometimes is ok to be rude but be smart rude, on a way that if they say something you act as if you hadnt notice what you did, and enjoy it, feel good about makethem feel terrible.
another way is to get a sticker and put it in your bumper that says
"MIND YOUR OWN zHIT"

Answer 9

Do the same to her. I am sometimes a nosey neighbour and it is fun. I am just getting my own back on those who do it to me. The only downside is that lots of the people on my estate know me as that Traffic Wardens daughter, so always come up to me to alk and ask questions. So yeah, just look at her back. Dont 4get to smile and wave.

Answer 10

Calmly Confront her. That's what I did with all 3 of my nosey neighbors.

By confronting her I mean go over to her and ask her over for brunch or something out on the deck of your house. If she refuses, then ask her right there why she finds it necessary to watch your every move.

I found that solved my "nosey neighbors" issue. The one that did actually accept my invitation over for brunch got asked the same question, and was tongue tied.

Blessings To You & Yours