My boyfriend and I had been living together for a year and lately we had been having a lot of problems/arguments. I was trying really hard to work through them because he expressed that it was making him unhappy.
A week ago we got into yet another argument and he packed up and left. I spoke to him a couple days later and suggested that we date but not live together and perhaps we could better work out our problems that way and he agreed saying that he thought that was a good idea. I talked to him Thurs. and Fri. and everything was fine. Then I didn't hear from him all weekend.
I am told that he needs space and time to think. I know he loves me and wants to be with me - so what does he need all this space to think about? He won't take my calls to explain this to me because it 'makes him want to be with me'. What is so wrong with that?
Basically what I want to know is what it is he needs all this time and space to think about, and will he come back?
2006-08-15 02:24:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he isn't seeing anyone else. I just need to understand what is going on so I can either deal with it or wait and give him his space.
2006-08-15 02:29:04 · update #1
I have not been begging or pressuring him to make a decision. This is why I have turned to Yahoo! Answers for some advice. This way I can get an outsider's view without pressuring him to know what is going on.
2006-08-15 03:02:37 · update #2
i think you should just give him some space, guys dont like to be crowded, he might have felt suffocated living with you and arguing, now that he has time to breath he cant just concentrate on being in a realtionship
2006-08-15 02:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
theres this beautiful saying that if you love something you should let it go, if it comes back to you then it is yours and you are meant to be but if it doesnt come back to you then it is not yours and you have to let go........i think you should give your friend a little space to think.men are generally like that when they feel they are geting too close for comfort and they are not ready for commitment they tend to stat running.your friend is beggining to have doubts and i dont know why.if he doesnt want to pik your calls then i suggest you let him be for now.with time apart if he truly loves you he will miss you and will want to come back but if he is tired he wouldnt and there is nothing you can do about it.i want you to uderstand if am not mistaken that you are not begging this man for friendship or marriage for that matter or are you? going to live with him in the first place without marriage on your on part is a big minus and of course am suprised you didnt see this his new attitude comming.mydear you dont throw yourself at a man like that or else he will rubbish you(sorry but you need the truth here). ....i suggest you gather the last shred of your dignity left and let him be.he will come back HE JUST NEEDS A LITTLE SPACE TO BE SURE ITS YOU HE REALLY WANTS.but if he doesnt then he's a coward and doesnt deserve your love.and next time make sure you look before you leap........takia
2006-08-15 03:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by babygal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How wise is it to spend your time & energy on someone who will walk out and refuse to talk when the going gets tough? Not exactly promising behaviour for a good marriage (nor common law marriage for that matter).
Enough of the head games... he's a runner, let him keep running.
2006-08-15 02:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 11:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs space all right and, if I were you I'd give him years and years of space. You say he's not with anyone-wanna bet. If that's true then the sky is green, pigs can fly and birthdays make you younger. You wonder if he'll come back- I wonder why you'd even consider letting him come back. No, he doesn't love you. Get on with your life and let the hound dog run.He's really throwing you a load of bull and you can't wait to catch it.
2006-08-15 03:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Cathy G 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My guess is that he feels smothered by living together. The best thing that you can do is give him complete space by not even calling him. Time alone makes people aware of what they are missing.
2006-08-15 02:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by NJ Loverboy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as though he does not want to be tied down, a very immature attitude some men have. Get a more mature mate.
2006-08-15 02:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
distance makes hearts grow fonder.and if theres really the flame left in both of u hes gonna come right back to u
2006-08-15 02:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well usually when a guy packs up and leaves he has hadenough and when you called he didn't wanna hurt your feelings nut if you say he loves you he wants to see wat you are goin to do when he is gone you have to show that you love him go to him if he loves you he is not asking for space he is testing you
2006-08-15 02:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by doggpd502005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS LYING TO YOU.HE WONT COME BACK.THATS JUST A WAY TO MAKE HIM FEEL BETTER.HE DOESNT WANNA FACE THE MUSIC OR ANSWER ANY OF YOUR QUESTIONS.WHILE YOU WAITING FOR HIM,HE WILL BE GETTING HIS GROOVE ON WITH SOMEBODY ELSE.DONT BE A FOOL.MOVE ON AND SHOW HIM YOU BETTER OFF WITH OUT HIM.DONT WASTE YOUR TIME SWEETIE!
2006-08-15 02:32:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋