i like this guy who isn't nessesarily the hottest guy in town but to me i think he has a sweet side that is worth working for and he is cool to be with and he is just like a big teddy bear. but if i tell him that that is how i feel im afraid that he'll reject me like everyone else. can you help[ me?
2006-08-15 02:16:46 · 44 answers · asked by *unknown* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, if you really like this guy, tell him. The possibility of rejection always exists when declaring your feelings for someone. You have to realise that if he rejects you its not the end of the world. Life does go on. Go for it and see what happens, maybe he likes you too. Good luck.
2006-08-15 02:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm not 100% clear on this, does he reject everyone or are you feeling rejected?
I'll run with the latter.
Have you ever honestly asked yourself why you are rejected? I know a wonderful woman who intentionally ruins any relationship she enters that appears to be going for the long term. She doesn't have great self esteem.
Do you sometimes feel like that? If so, you need to work on that one. As humans, we all have great value and should expect to be treated as such, even by ourselves!
Do an inventory on everything about you and figure out what you have that is great about yourself and run with that all the way to the bank!!!!
Good luck!
2006-08-15 02:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
[1] I wouldn't mention the "not the hottest guy" to him. [2] If he's going to reject you, he's going to reject you, but it's unlikely he will "accept" you if he doesn't know you're interested. [3] If he does reject you, as you say others have in the past, count your blessings; for they were not the right people. [4] All things happen for a good reason, even thought we can't always see/find anything good at the time, about some circumstances. [5]Friendship is the ultimate factor in a long term relationship; look for it, and love will follow; trust in its guidance and love will endure.
2006-08-15 02:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have some confidence. If he already isn't that great looking so chances are he doesn't have much confidence either. That could work to your advantage. Try it...you never know unless you try. If he is a s sweet as you think he is you guys will be very happy together. If he isn't sweet at all and he rejects you, well then aren't missing anything!
2006-08-15 02:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you needto know that you are the survivor of a long line of the most powerful creature on this planet, and you 'ROCK'!
But, like the Scarecrow, in the "Wizard of Oz" simply lack some reinforcement that you have knowledge and wisdom!
As a man, let me assure you, when you walk up, and you say "hello!", and bat those beautiful eyelashes at me, I am YOURS FOREVER!
Just keep any thoughts to yourself, until the deal is sealed. You are probably smarter, too. Don't let it show, except in subtle ways, like in your choices, in your self-respect, in your quiet way of setting the rules, that I so want to live by!
Remember, men are birthed, nursed, nurtured, by a woman.
The major thing in a man's world is to be near one, who is as kind, yet firm about the boundries, as is possible, while still trusting enough to let him go out to 'play' with his friends, in the world!
The first person you want to meet, after him, is his MOTHER!
You will immediately see what he is all about, girl! If you admire her right off, and it all feels natural, and she takes to you, THAT is what seals the deal!
If she is the total opposite of who you are, then the MAN will have serious problems with YOU! You will be too alien to him
and it will be a short term thrill for him, but, a long term pain for him, as he will have to change a lot to accomodate your ways!
So, in the long run, it ain't about the cooking, the dress, the housekeeping, it is about the flavor, the look, and the style! to which he is accustomed. Don't change yourself, it won't work, it ain't natural!
Just move on to the next one, and meet the mother!
2006-08-15 02:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont look down on your self we all get rejected you just say to your self thats ok hes not the one., How does your friend act around you throw him little hints and smile. Why not ask him to dinner even if its just fish an chips see what he likes that way he will feel comfortable. If you think hes worth going for do it. Your the only one that knows how you feel, who cares if hes hot or not its the person on the inside that counts.Don't be negative think positive .
2006-08-15 02:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by a mother 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.... People always seem to want what they can't have so if you act needy or too easy, guy's usually don't like that.... Be independent, yet sweet and attentive and hopefully he'll get the message....
2006-08-15 02:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rule of Human Nature...Maybe this will help. You can choose who you marry, but you never choose who you fall in love with. The soul takes over naturally and it finds the connection. So be brave about your feelings and express yourself...if you don't, your soul mate may just walk on by from a lack of courage.
2006-08-15 02:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by Laughing Man Copycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always try what you want to do. Fear holds you back too many times from your dreams. If you don't let him know you like him you may never know if he likes you. The least he can do is say no and then you will know and not have to worry anymore. If he says yes you may be very happy. Life is about risks so take one. "he who aims at nothing will hit it every time" Zig Ziigler.
Good luck.
2006-08-15 02:25:16 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, talk to him. He may have feelings for you but is too shy
to say anything. I was like that in my youth. You gotta risk rejection at the price of possibly finding the man of your dreams.
Reminds me of the sayings "nothing ventured,nothing gained"
and another "nothing beats a failure but a try".
2006-08-15 02:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋