im 21 n my fiance is 28. we haf been 2gether for almost 5 yrs. we r planning to get married soon.. but how m i suppose to tell him tat im not ready to egt married? for all tis yrs, he didn't satisfy me enough.. by the way he behave.. e way he react.. everything.. by the look at my eyes, he is not a responsible n not even ready to b my husband.. i do love him alot but i juz can't take the way he behave.. how?
2006-08-15 02:11:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you've been with him 4 5 years and you're 21 and he's 28 so you were 16 and he was 23 isn't that illegal?
2006-08-18 18:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by monique mccormick johnson 16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and say it- you're not ready. My husband wasn't ready at one point. Not because we weren't mature or unsatisfied with how our realtionship was- he felt lost because I did all the planning thinking I was doinghim a favor- he felt like the rug had been pulled from under him. We put things off for a year and actually grew alot closer since we planned everything from that point on together. Just tell your fiance that you're just not ready right now (might not want to mention all the negative stuff if you think he might blow up). If you're 21 and have been with this guy for 5 years- have you experienced anything else? Have you been able to be out in the world on your own two feet? If you have doubts about his husband abilities- don't make this commitment just yet. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, so maybe you can seperate for a little while and see if he is what you really want in the end.
2006-08-15 09:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him over a cup of a coffee or some lunch..
tell him straight that you dont feel like prepared about taking this relation ahead into a marriage.. dont tell him its because of him that you are feeling that way..
rather tell him that its something you just are not feeling right about..
dont let him convince you that everything is alright and things will be different from present after you two get married etc etc...
after all the talks ask him to announce the delay in marriage...
if he doesnt agree to any of it at all.. then let this relation end on a little bad note than keep yourself suffering in a partnership that you are not ready for..
best of luck..
2006-08-15 09:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by mk_single 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you said it pretty well on here! If you have any doubts inside (and yes you do) you need to call it off now. Just tell your fiance that you love him, want to be with him but you feel there are things you guys need to work on before you get married. Tell him you want to wait on marriage a while longer. If he doesn't take it well, break up with him PERIOD. He should care enough about how you feel (and about himself enough) to know that if someone does not want to marry him he won't try to change her mind because he would only regret it later. Trust me. I
2006-08-15 10:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by sweetypie9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change your number and write him a letter:
Dear X,
I change my mind and don't want to get married anymore. I realized that I still have a lot of experiences to live before getting married. I'm still quite young and don't think that I am ready for marriage yet. I hope that you understand my decision.
Best of luck,
Y
2006-08-15 10:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him before its to late.Call the wedding off and tell him why you're calling it off.Tell him the truth and be glad that you're ending it now instead of years from now.Best of luck
2006-08-15 09:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I am not ready to get married" that way
2006-08-15 10:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you love me instead.
2006-08-15 09:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋