Recently, we sold our house and need to be out by this weekend. We got the inspection done on the house that we have a down payment on and there are too many things to fix. That fell through. My grandparents said we could stay there like a month ago, but decided against it. We have no where to go and my mother has an empty house she won't let us move into just to find another place to live. How would you feel if your mother did this to you? She's left my sister move in and out many times over the years including last year, and my brother was still living at home when he was my age...
2006-08-15 02:02:49 · 13 answers · asked by sundragonjess 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've already talked and talked to her about it. We have animals and she said "well, you better find a place to rent then". It's really hard to rent with animals...
2006-08-15 02:14:40 · update #1
I already offered to pay money and do the upkeep for the house, she doesn't want to help.
2006-08-15 02:15:20 · update #2
I'm the youngest (23), my sister is 29 and my brother is 31
2006-08-15 02:16:37 · update #3
The reason why she's doing it is because she left my stepdad who raised me and started dating another guy. She lied to me about every aspect of that situation and the only person she told the truth to about everything is my sister. My sister accepted it because she wasn't the one being lied to and My brother and I didn't accept it at first because mom lied to us about everything. I think she has bad feelings about that even though I've accepted it now.
2006-08-15 02:19:06 · update #4
Try to find out the reason why she is doing this and try to come up with a compromise. If there is no real/ good reason for her behavior then there's really nothing you can do except find another place to live. Good luck!
2006-08-15 02:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mujareh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"I've already talked and talked to her about it. We have animals and she said "well, you better find a place to rent then". It's really hard to rent with animals..."
From the above statement it sounds like the animals are the problem. If this is the case then you need to decide which is more important to you right now. Keeping the animals or having a place to live. Maybe you could see if a friend or some one could keep them for you until you find a new place.
If your mother doesn't want animals at her place then don't get mad at her for not letting you stay if you don't want to give them up. Keep in mind that she is your mother and you are wanting to live under her roof so you should respect her and abide by her rules. Even if she doesn't live there herself it is still her place.
2006-08-15 03:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by mr_oilfield_78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you always have to understand the nature of a person to understand the decisions that a person makes. If my mother did something like this to me I would wonder have a done something to make her have this type of feeling towards me. Sometimes people do not verbalize there feelings towards you they will just treat you a certain way and you are left in the dark because they never talked about how they felt.
2006-08-15 02:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by jman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need a back up plan.. i'd take the keys and go stay in the empty apt until she found another place for us to stay.. no need to be homeless if u don't have to be...
u probably just doesn't want u and the others to damage the house more than it already is but let her no that u and ur family shouldn't be a burden to anyone else if u don't have to be...
2006-08-15 02:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I very much doubt my mom would ever do that to me. But maybe your mom wil come around and realize she'd being unreasonable. Could you maybe offer to pay her a bit of rent just for a month or so untill you get everything else sorted out?
2006-08-15 02:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by agliotti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom would never do that to me, but if she did, I would feel extremely hurt. However, I recognize that I am only hearing one side of the situation here, so I will not make judgment on your mother without knowing her side of things.
2006-08-15 02:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by Miss D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are the ages, also sounds like you're footing the bill. Sounds childish to me. Think of how your mother feels for a moment.
2006-08-15 02:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by EL Big Ed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're over 18, she has no legal obligation to let you move in; everything else is between you and your mom.
If you hold that against her, that's again your problem; for all we know, you've been a demanding ***** to her. If you want to know why she hasn't treated you fairly compared to your siblings...ask her.
2006-08-15 02:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i cant really imagine my mother would have ever done this to me,but...if she had,
i would definitly want answers,and by this i mean sitting down with her and"listening"to reason,and maybe there would be a solution,
i dont think you r taking in to concideration your mothers feelings
2006-08-15 03:06:20 · answer #9 · answered by sweetbottom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her about it and coming up with a solution
2006-08-15 02:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋