I'm 16 and dating a 25 year old guy, my family keep trying to break us up and my brother has threaten to beat my boyfriend up if I dont split with him. I really really like this guy and he's never pressured me into sex or anything so I dont understand why my family have a problem with him. I think I'm actulally falling in love with him, if you can even be in love at 16, and I don't want to split wth him as I can rally see our relationship having a future. Can anyone please give me any advice of what to do ?
2006-08-15 01:59:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand people's concerns but if he is 'young for his age' and you are quite mature for yours, then where's the harm?
You can't judge by just looking at the differnce of the two ages. You need to get to know the two people involved.
Just take your time and don't be in a rush to do anything you don't feel ready to do!
2006-08-15 02:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by 'Dr Greene' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah he is way too old for you. When I was 25 I had already bought my own home, lived with a girlfriend for four years, I had a career. Highschool was just a distant memory.
You have two years left of high school, maybe some college after that, five years before you can legally drink. You probably cannot even drive yet.
While a nine year age gap may not matter if you are 30, at 16 it is huge. If you have sexual relations with him, he could go to jail in many states.
I would be prepared to bet large amounts of money that you will not be in any kind of relationship with him three years from now. You really do need to end it.
2006-08-15 02:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A nine year age difference is pretty big. That's more than half of your current life. More often than not these relationships are not what they seem. Older men preying on younger girls. Ask your family if you could do more things with them and him included so they get to know him like you do. Your family loves you and just wants to keep you safe. But please keep in mind 16 years old is still young to have these feelings. You have a lot of life and will probably will meet many more wonderful men. Love takes some practice.
2006-08-15 02:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mark S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky one, especially as you say he's not pressuring you in to sex! I normally have the opinion that age is only a number, but it's hard to imagine what a 16 year old and 25 year old have in common.
Listen to your heart, but be realistic. You need to really think about what you want in life before getting involved in a serious relationship with someone of any age!
2006-08-15 02:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by appleblossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he's too old for you. He's a grown man, you're still in high school. You have alot of living to do before you reach his age. And you say he doesn't pressure you into sex, not that you don't have sex. If you do, it's illegal. And it's illegal because the law recognizes that the age gap is wrong. You will change so much in a short time right now. Don't try to do it still with him. Live your life, see what the world has to offer. If you meet him again in say 10 years, and you still feel the same, then you can have a relationship. Not now. It really isn't good for you.
2006-08-15 02:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know, but your parents might make up lies on him. Its really not good until you turn 18, maybe you could write each other until you do turn 18. There is nothing wrong with the age difference
BLACKBEARD THE PIRATE MARRIED A 15 YEAR OLD WHEN HE WAS 55
BILL WYMAN OF THE ROLLING STONES MARRIED AN 18 YEAR OLD WHEN HE WAS 47
JERRY SEINFELD DATED A 17 YEAR OLD WHEN HE WAS IN HIS 30'S.
THE LIST COULD GO ON AND ON.
So it's not so much the age factor, as it is what your parents might do. You might look into the consenting age factor in your state as far as marriage. In California you can marry at any age, and in mississippi and massachusetts 12
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2006-08-15 19:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by aguyinthewoods 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erm in the uk the age on concent is 16 and much more realistic due to human biology plus its daft saying wait till you left home before first sexaul expeirnces with no support netwrok around you like parents and friends...
Plus you have given no indication that he is in the least bit preditiory or grooming you or any such rubbish...
Most likly he had parents like the idiots here saying wait wait wait... then when waited found it near impossible to get a girlfriend as lacking the expericne of other guys could not compete, appeared needy so could not pull.
Hence therefore having lots in commin with a 16 year olds as having pretty much the same amount of dating experience.
Likewise others his age who started at 16 by now are probably coupling up soi he will be lonly and you have lots of maters and hang out with pals so you most likely appear fun.
Your brother is not protecting you... typical idiot treats his sister as of a deferent specailis to all the girls he wants to pull and date but as sexist thinks you should be different to them.,.. You are the same...
So go with it and stuff the family unless he tries to make you do things you dont...
but remeber he is old enough to drink and things like that. you are not and he has to realise that.
Most likly your his first proper girlfriend...
Mostly likly as idiot parents were like your brother stopping him date.
2006-08-15 03:07:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too young but your family are not helping you to make a clear decision for yourself. it may be that this guy is the one for you but not just yet. if you are meant to be together you will be in time but you need space to grow and explore first. ask him to give you time and space. make a date to meet again in two years' time and split til then. make a list of all the things you love and like about him and start looking for those qualities in yourself and others around you that you don't feel romantic for. He's still young too and getting tied to each other will not make it last. if you truly are to be together in two years you'll be more ready. if he loves you he'll let you go your own way too. I know it's really hard but there really is more than one guy out there and your life is for living.
2006-08-15 02:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice on past experience would be stick with it I was 18 when I meet my husband who was 43 my family came to love him as much as i did and still do 26 years later and three children prove something and we are both still very happy but in the beginning we had the same problems
2006-08-15 02:11:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to bust your bubble but there is nothing you have in common witha 25 year old man and I think he's a little sick for going after a 16 year old and if you do have sex with him your parents can have him arrested for rape since your under age
2006-08-15 02:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by freeatlastboone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋