How do I have an affair without getting caught.?

Question

I love my husband dearly but I am totally lusting for a co-worker and the feeling is mutual. HOw do I pul this off without getting caught.

Answer 1

You don't. Whether you get "caught" or not is not the point because you probably can have a f**k on the fly and not get caught, but once you do this you will always have betrayed your husband. Always. Yes, the one you "love dearly." If you love him "dearly" then it is your responsibility to turn away from the lust you feel for another. That's a big part of what marriage is all about. If you can't do that, then you shouldn't be married.

Answer 2

Do you really want to do this? You're husband will eventually find out and it will get out of hand.
Did you ever think that maybe you were being tested in life at this point? Are you strong enough to resist temptation? This is going to destroy your marriage and you're about to fall into a trap.
You married your husband for love. You made a commitment and took a vow before the eyes of God and I promise you, if you fall for this temptation, it will backfire and blow up. You will lose everything.
There is no way of doing this without getting caught because every lie is exposed at some point. And there will always be a consequence for your actions. You do not know this mans body. How do you know he doesn't have an STD? How do you know he won't turn into a jerk after it's done and over with? He leaves and goes on his way ... your husband leaves and you're left alone.
Also, if you have children, you are betraying them as well. You would stepping outside the boundaries of your marriage for a cheap temporary thrill and turning your back on your whole family over it. Is this really worth it? Are you sure you really want to do this?
I really hope you think really hard about your decision and be wise. You need to either find another job or move to another department away from this co-worker. It's not worth losing everything you and your husband built together.

Answer 3

Well you can sneak around before and after work BUT if you really love your husband don't do it. Spend the energy spicing up your marriage because if you get caught the guy at work is just a lust thing and you will ruin a good marriage. Affairs are not all they are cracked up to be even the hot I can't keep my hands off of you and the guilt every time you look in your husbands eyes is hard to live with.

Answer 4

I liked the one person's post who said it's like the potato chip syndrome, it's very addictive. Until the fire dies down, this guy's going to be on your mind from the minute you wake up til the minute you go to sleep at nite. Is your co-worker single? It's going to DRIVE you crazy if you see him flirting with another woman or if he meets another single woman out and his feelings begin to wane for you. Then you'll get all insecure inside, you'll be snapping at your husband more than you were . . . it's a serious situation you're heading into!!

If you are dead set on doing this, join a sports league with this guy (anything will do) and simply get together after each game. Join something organized with him . . . bowling, a cooking class, whatever gives you the opportunity to BE somewhere with him on a set nite.

I would also recommend that you try to find what's lacking in your marriage to make this other guy so attractive to you but it sounds like you're already emotionally into this other person (too late to turn back).

Answer 5

The only way two people can keep a secret is if one of them is dead.

Come on. This is a co-worker. You will see him every day after this infidelity. And do you really think that you can stop after one time? If you can screw around on your husband once, you'll do it again and again until you do get caught.

If you really insist on being a s!ut, you must do it out of town with a total stranger. Do NOT give this stranger your correct name, address, or phone number. Do not sleep with him in your hotel room - go to his place or rent a separate room where none of your belongings are located.

Answer 6

Honestly, you can't. Maybe if he was a random guy you met at a club, but not a co-worker. He is just a little too close to your everyday. And I can tell you now if you have sex with him it will 10 times better than with your hubby and it will turn into potato chip syndrome, you can't just have one! Maybe you need to turn the heat on in your own relationship, bring back the lust you once had for your husband.

Answer 7

you don't, u always end up caught, if not from ur own guilt, someone else will (let the cat out of the bag) no matter how hard u try. MOst of the time the guilt gives u away. The feeling of dishonest will eat at u until u confess. You need to sit back and evaluate your life with ur husband before making any rash decisions.

Answer 8

God sees you everywhere. You will always be caught. You do not want to cheat. What a person thinks, says and does reflects ones character. Why not give the time and attention to your husband? If you are not in love then end it first.No-one deserves betrayal. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot?

Answer 9

Dear future divorcee i hope you get caught and he runs you through the coals. Think of the repricussions especially if you have kids. They will find out mommy is a ho and thats why mommy and daddy got divorced. If this is a problem you can't control then do yourself and your family a favor and quit this job and find another one and this time act like a responsible adult and not a 16 yr old school girl with a crush. You bad bad bad person

Answer 10

Weii it is not easy, there is always a chance of getting caught. When u have an affair with one repeatedly, without your knowledge, u will show some signs of having F with him that is part of the excitement. A clever man will notice it, but many men don't dick the dirt by investigating it rather they get frustrated & become sick. Is it worth it? You decide. Good luck!