In the past, when I ask a question about my wife I get a lot of, "She is stuck in Mommy Mode", but I have never gotten, "Stuck in Daddy Mode". Is the shift greater for women then men? Is the role of mother and the role of wife have a greater distance than the role of father and husband. They are two distinct roles.
2006-08-15 01:45:57 · 17 answers · asked by parkdad73 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Interesting question. I would think that it would depend on the individual circumstances. For example, a father that stayed home with his children while his wife worked might have more trouble shifting roles, but probably still less than the average woman in this position.
Women are natural nurturers and caregivers. They have motherly instincts. Have you ever heard of fatherly instincts? I think the bond between mother and child is the strongest possible.
However, you can do things to help get your mom out of "mommy mode" once in awhile. Have someone watch the kids and remove her from her usual environment. Take her somewhere nice, and make her feel appreciated. You'll probably see a different side of her.
2006-08-15 01:51:14 · answer #1 · answered by Miss D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are distinct roles in your home, but honestly, in single parent homes the 'mommy' or 'daddy' modes are simply based on who the single parent is, not primarily their gender. This is probably a situation where she is trying to stick to a particular gender role as mommy, and she may even be applying a really high standard to herself that is causing her some stress. Moms tend to self-impose a high standard, and let's face it, society does encourage it. Best thing you can do when she is in mommy mode is remind her how beautiful she is, and what a great mom she is, and encourage her to have some "myself" time while you take over for a while. It sounds like you're pretty comfortable in your roles, and giving her time (and permission) to step out of the mommy mode might help her to do that. Hope this suggestion helps!
2006-08-21 18:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Mark L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both have a important role to play.Neither role is greater then the other.Neither role will work with out the help of the other.You have the Daddy mode & shehas the mommy mode. Just be thankful you have each other,
2006-08-22 13:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by BUTCH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bigger shift, but only as big as you make it. A woman goes from thinking about herself to automatically thinking about her child and then herself. I mean, she did have 9 months to bond before daddy even got a crack at it. Men can be involved as much, or as little, as they want, but a mom has no choice. If you're a quality, involved parent, then the gap is smaller. Of course these are all just general statements cause there are some women who suck at being a mom, just like there are some incredible fathers.
2006-08-15 01:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my case yes, my husband and i both work seperate shifts in the same job, but where he is only "daddy" when left alone with our little girl and he has to be responsable i am "mummy" 24/7 i think about her welfare and happyness when i am at work all day and wonder if she is eating/what she is eating.
It is me that lays her clothes out in the morning for "daddy" to dress her and tells him what she needs to eat and asks him to do fun things with her.
When we climb into be at night, even when i am horney i always think to check her first and make sure she is warm, had a wee ect.
When we fight if she is around i pick her up and the conversation is over.
I often wonderd why my husband is not the same, it is not because he doesn´t love her, it is just that he does not have to think like a daddy 24/7 and i do.
2006-08-23 00:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get stuck in mommy mode and my hubby never really gets into daddy mode I think it is just natural for woman to to be loveing and be the never wrong always there for you type of mommy and guys in mho take on the got to be strong roll .
2006-08-22 10:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what you are asking. I wear many hats at the same time mommy, wife, construction manager, home manager, taxi driver, daughter, sister, neighbor. I do not know anything about switching modes, But my relationship with my husband comes first and I am number one in his life regardless of how many hats he is wearing.
2006-08-15 02:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think, we as women feels more "NEEDED" as a mom then as a partner is all,we know our mate can do and the kids need us for everything{especially the very young and the first born}so hang in there it does get better when the kids get older !!! Dads just take care of the guy stuff and get out more with peers and many women are left in the mommy role so they don't see themselves as more then. best of luck in figuring it out!!!!lol
2006-08-20 17:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by wick3dwench 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yes it can be harder, notice how much alike the words are, mother / smother. Besides dads really don't act different with kids, wives, parents etc. They are not biologically changed and conditioned to instinctive survival behavior.
2006-08-19 06:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by scornedgypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to a real father as in a real mother its the same mode
2006-08-22 15:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋