i am a slim person with big boobs and a big butt and when we go to the club i get a lot of attention from other guys and my bf does not like that. it has got to where he does not want me wearing skirts when we go out bc of all the guys that try to hit on me. i am not talking about one or two guys i am talking about 15 guys in one club atleast a night. but it bothers me that he tries to tell me what to wear or what not to where but at the same time i understand where he is coming from. i mean he tells me he does not want me to wear it bc he does not want to get into fights. i want to say something about it but i don't want to make a big deal out of nothing. so do u think that i should tell him something about telling me what to wear and what not to wear when we go out.
2006-08-15 01:13:31 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him know that you are with him and no matter what those other guys say and do you ARE his girlfriend.
2006-08-15 01:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Nell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your BF is uncomfortable with the amount of attention you're getting from your attire, don't you think that it might behoove you to CHANGE what you're wearing (just a little) so that he's more comfortable? He's being protective and jealous. It means he CARES (I know, shocking!).
Ok, turn the tables for a second: how would YOU feel if a bunch of skanks were hanging all over HIM because of a shirt he was wearing or something. It would probably make you uncomfortable and p!ss you off just a little bit, right? Same thing.
All he's asking is that you dress a little more conservatively, so that he doesn't feel the need to defend his "rights." I don't think that's too far out of line on his part.
If you MUST say something, say "I understand what you're saying, but I really like wearing the street-sl*t outfit to clubs. I'm sorry it bothers you; if you don't like watching me get attention from other guys trying to f**k your GF, then I suggest you don't come with me."
I'll bet that not only will he not come with you to the clubs to watch you dress & act like a sl*t, but that he'll probably end up breaking up with you entirely. Is this what you REALLY want? Is it REALLY worth exerting your "freedom" to wear what you want? Think on that.
2006-08-15 01:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't think of it as other guys hitting on you but that he has what they all want. He should be happy about it. Far as you changing what you feel comfortable in, tell him to deal with it or hit the the road. Be sides jealousy isn't a good thing for a long term relationship. If he starts being more controlling you may find yourself loosing your friends (male and female).
One other idea, maybe so many guys are hitting on you is because he isn't showing a relationship appearance with you at the clubs. Simply, he isn't showing you enough attention so that the other guys know you two are a couple.
good luck
2006-08-15 02:29:02 · answer #3 · answered by tazintampa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an idiot
Ok, jealousy is a natural instinct, and if you _give_ all those boys at the club attention, you certainly aren't much better than him. So let's hope that you aren't really part of the problem. But if you are loving each other, you should also trust each other, and jealousy is an instinct it's possible to fight, like so many others.
What really got to me, was that stupid excuse of his: "he does not want to get into fights". I've never heard of anyone getting into fights because of having a beautyful girlfriend. This tells a lot about an insecure boyfriend who is afraid to even admit that he is jealous. Or maybe it tells about an immature boyfriend who fakes his jealousy in order to get into fights with people. In any case, yes, you should have a serious talk with him about this.
2006-08-15 01:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand why hes saying that but you dont want him controlling you.If you let him control what you wear then he will think he can also control other things about you as well.Nip it in the butt now.As for the attention from all the men because of big boobs and butt its not really going to matter what you wear you could be wearing jeans and still get the attention.Tell him that this was who and how you were when you met him and hey thats probaly also what he noticed too lol.Tell him it dosent matter what other guys think and say because in the end you are with him you chose to be with him so that says something.
2006-08-15 01:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to chill, and you need to re-assure him, but, both of you have got to gettogether on this, as that is what the relationship is all about, agreement on things because they are the best for the relationship!
Don't do something solely to please or obey another person, do it because it is the Correct Thing To Do in your heart, and it means an elevation of your personal spirit to a higher level of integrity!
Do good because it feels Right!
And, tone down the make-up a tiny bit! I seen you the other night!
You help make a GREAT couple! Just that, right now, you two are working out the boundries and the flirting is a bit of a test... you tease, you!
2006-08-15 01:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously like the attention and he is sensible enough to ask you not to wear clothes that might cause him to fight. Perhaps go clubbing on you own for a bit until you big swallen head shrinks a bit
2006-08-15 01:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he should be proud to be with a woman that every guy wants. LoL but you should respect the fact that it bothers him when you wear so called "hoochie" clothes, but I guess as long as you are going to the clubs with him and not without him I don't see why he should worry
2006-08-15 01:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by blueyedattitiude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it bothers you, you need to tell him.
Think of it this way - all these guys hitting on you bothers him, so HE TOLD YOU
about it.
Good for the goose, good for the gander.
You may ask him sarcastically if he'd like you to wear a burka...
Ultimately, that is the extreme form of where he's going.
2006-08-15 01:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
come on Hun how would u feel if the shoe was on the other foot if it was your guy getting all the attention maybe c it from his side and try to tone it down a bit and because you have compromised your guy will respect you more n no u do live him. maybe try by asking his advise pick three outfits one u will like one u no he will like n and one that it half way between the to it works wonders. just tell him you understand wat he was saying as u av thought about the the shoe on the other foot
2006-08-15 01:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by jojo c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell him about this. He is being protective and you can't blame him but he should know that there is a thing called trust that he seems to lack in this relationship. Tell him that he has to understand that you are aware that he does not want to fight but he has to trust you to avoid those fights for him until provoked to do this. So, talk to him and be honest about it. best of luck amigo
2006-08-15 01:19:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋