i want my ex back how do i get him???
HELP!!
2006-08-15 01:03:59 · 21 answers · asked by ladeee lindel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It all depends on reason why it finished in first place. I am going through it at the moment, I split up with my ex last year and got back together at New Year - it lasted three weeks, we had been together 2 1/2 years. I still want him back but need to remember the bad times and why it went wrong which is really bloody hard as I still think about him a helluva lot. If it gonna happen and is meant to be you gotta go out there and get him but would advise you seriously think about it first.
2006-08-15 01:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has at one time or another.
Sometimes whether you can get them back depends on how you broke up. If he dumped you it might be trickier because he obviously wasn't happy with the relationship. If you dumped him and now regret it, you might be in with a chance, unless he has moved on, in which case you would be wasting your time and also selfishly jeopardising his chances of happiness in a new relationship. (I've been through this and it was hard when he basically said he didn't care anymore and had moved on. I had to accept it.)
The problem is sometimes when we have finished with someone we look back and only see the good times. You have to ask why you broke up in the first place. And what has changed since then. If you broke up because you basically were not compatible and certain things about his personality/character bugged you then unless he has completely changed his personality and character (he won't have, people don't) you'll end up just as bored with him the second time around as you were the first.
I know a girl like this and she pisses me off. She keeps breaking up with this guy complaining that he's too quiet, he's boring, he doesn't make her laugh etc. Two weeks later she will want him back. They will get back together (the poor sap is still in love with her and always comes running when she calls) and it will last about another two weeks before she realises she's still bored with him and dumps him again. This has been going on for months and its really pissing everyone who knows them off. Him for being such a sap that he goes back to her everytime and her for being such a nasty selfish little *****.
Think carefully about why you broke up in the first place before you try to get him back. If you think it can work, then ask him to meet you as a friend and just get used to spending time together again - no pressure. Let it happen naturally.
2006-08-15 08:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat with you. Me and my ex split up a little over 2yrs ago after being together for 8. We basically grew apart and forgot what it was we loved about each other. We've talked on the phone a lot in the past 6 months and seen each other twice. We are getting to know each other again. And it seems easier to be honest and open with each other this go around.
My advice is to be honest with one another about what you want, don't rush and develop a friendship before you become his lover again. Good Luck!
2006-08-15 10:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by greenejl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but u have 2 be careful yuv got 2 become their friend again
But if hes a helpless dude and cant get a grl just go up 2 him and say i like u.
But if its a guy who can get any girl he wants (which Im sure it is) then go up 2 him and say i really like u i no it was a mistake 2 break up with u and i want 2 make it right.
2006-08-15 08:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Twizzler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, been there.
However, it's normal to have second thoughts right after breaking up with someone. If that's the case, stick with your original decision (you must have made it for a reason) until your emotions settle.
If it's been a while, then tell him you regret your decision and would like another chance. Just make sure you're doing it for the right reason -- i.e. because you now appreciate him more, not just because you're bored or lonely.
2006-08-15 08:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there myself. It's not nice. Thing is, though, it's not going to be the same if/when you get back with the guy.
I'm sorry to be pessimistic. I am a realist. This ain't gonna work out.
2006-08-15 09:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I dumped a guy after I found out he cheated. He wanted to get back with me. I just ignored him until he went away. I never looked back.
2006-08-15 08:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Diabla 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be such people around. Im sure about it. Now existence part has been proven. Now the search part: let us wait and find altogether.
2006-08-15 08:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i only think that's natural, everyone goes through that, maybe you should see how he feels about the proposal of getting back together and go from there.
2006-08-15 08:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it happens all the time its really annoying, you only know what you had when its gone, you could always ask him you want to get back together you never know he might miss you too
2006-08-15 08:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by soma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋