Well i jus took a pregnancy test and the results came back positive. The problem is I'm only 18, I'm still young! Me and my boyfriend have a good relationship and i'm sure we are capable of takin care of it but my mom is really stressing me out. My mom has always been against abortions but when i told her that was the first thing she said. Im 100% against abortion but its my choice what i want to do right?! i just dont want her to be mad at me. What should i do?
2006-08-14 23:47:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Live your own life and do what is best for you. If your mother truely loves you she will understand that. I hope this helped. Peace
2006-08-14 23:54:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
And you come in here to get differing opinions from people that you don't know and who have NO connection to you whatsoever?
You made a choice (probably more than once!) to have unprotected sex with your boyfriend. You have a "good relationship" with him? What's that mean??
This baby didn't have a choice. It's a child. A baby. A human being. You and this boy created it when you had unprotected sex. For that 15 minutes of fun, the two of you produced a living, breathing human.
NOW you want advise as what to do??? It's a little late for that.
If you don't want the baby, then there are thousands of couples out there who are trying to adopt but cannot find a baby.
There are so many ways to "choose" the adoptive parents now, that you would be doing something wonderful for a couple who are unable to conceive.
If you kill this child, it WILL follow you your entire life. It's a life-altering event and you will be changed forever by your decision. Actually, either way it'll alter your life.
Growing up sucks. Making decisions sucks. And unfortunately you made a wrong decision when you decided to take off your clothes and have unprotected sex with your boyfriend.
2006-08-15 00:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. In my opinion you need to think about what you want to do, really think about it because you're making a life-altering decision. Don't allow your mother to bully you into doing something you're gonna regret. This decision needs to be made by you and your boyfriend. To all those that say "oh, just have the baby or give it up for adoption" I have one question for you-have you ever been in this young ladies position? If you have not, who the hell are you to be passing judgement on her? As long as you're making your decision based on what you feel is the right thing to do it is no one's business what you do but your own. I think you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, **** happens and now you're faced with a very difficult situation. Make the right choice for you and the position you're in. You're gonna do the right thing no matter what. Just don't wait too long to take care of it and please, please, please don't think that abortion is the easy way out. If you do get an abortion do yourself a favor and learn from this experience, I almost said mistake, it's not a mistake, it is what it is. Get on birth control, stay on it until you are ready for a child. I wish you the best of luck, you're going to make the right decision and hopefully your mom will come around and give you the support and encouragement you do desparately need at this point in your life.
2006-08-15 08:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by sarahsmiles1222 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should consider adoption. You probably dont want to bring a child into the world into a situation where you cannot provide for her emotionally, financially, or physically but, ending her life is not a good solution either. If you had an abortion and you feel youre 100% against abortion, than you would likely feel alot of guilt and pain for the rest of your life if you ended the life of your baby. If you adopt your baby out to loving parents who can provide for her, than that would be the ultimate act of love that you could show your child. You should contact a local adoption agency and look into it. But, yes it is YOUR choice, not your mother's...it's your body and your baby!
2006-08-15 01:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by dixiechic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby a chance to choose life.
It may be best to adopt in some cases, but your relationship doesn't sound unhealthy. You may be able to make a wonderful marriage.
It is odd how people think of 18 as so young, but all things are relative. Women the world over are very capable mothers at much younger ages than this.
2006-08-15 00:29:16 · answer #5 · answered by magpie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing. Keep the baby and if you dont want him, give him for adoption. You can even choose the people he/she will be given to.
Your mom will be OK with your decision. She is angry now, but she will be fine after some time.
Tell her you will not kill your child and she shouldnt force you in any way. Tell her you were wrong, you made a mistake you are sorry , you love her very much and you need her support .
Thats what a mother wants to hear from a daughter.
2006-08-14 23:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by IRA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had an abortion a couple of years ago, and it is something you never forget or "get over". But, in the end it is ultimately your decision. It would be beneficial for you to look into adoption, but it's amazing how much first time grandparents come around once the baby is here. You're an adult, and the choice is yours. I wish you good luck, and God bless!
2006-08-15 00:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by traydenma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey.
I think that you should chose the baby over your mother. Your mother will still be there to change her mind, but if you kill your baby, you won't be able to change your mind about it further down the line.
She is probably just shocked. Keep your baby, she will come around to the idea of being a grandmother soon.
Like you said, it's your choice, you have to live with your decision every day for the rest of your life. Make sure you're not going to regret your choice.
2006-08-15 01:04:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, u cannot do nything.. just get ur bf together with u.. hav a talk with him abt getting married.. then go to ur mom n tell her the truth...then say sorry.. then say tht u cannot abort bcuz ur killing a life.. n ask ur mom how she wud feel if she herself had killed u in her womb.. she'll understand.. even u need to understand the importance of a mother-child relationship.. well, now u cant do nything.. so its best to just go n get married with him n liv happily ever after.. it is at a real short notice.. just do it! dont worry.. u wont regret it..
You will hav a very gud life together.. n share a very diff relationship bcuz u will luv each other more cuz u know how ur'll helped each othr in times of need.. DONT ABORT.. just hav mild sex with him for ur pleasure but be sure not to harm the baby...
Just think of the fun u'll hav with the baby n how u ppl will liv together,..n like it'll be a fairytale.. Ur mom is right! .. she just is making lots of noise bcuz she luves u n just wants whts best,, ur her little bundle of joy.. u'll understand it after u hav ur baby!
2006-08-14 23:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sean 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh, she has no right, legal or otherwise, to prevent you from having an abortion.
If you believe that an abortion is the best thing for you, then do it.
2006-08-14 23:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by amg503 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋