In laws, are they a help or hindrance? What can you do if they are constantly interfering?

Question

erm...I don't know why u guys are talking abt voting,,,but basically I was referring to my husband's family...my inlaws...

Answer 1

In laws can be a great help at times; but also a menace at others.

But mostly depends also on our rapport with them. Try these tips to help you build a better relationshiop with them:
1. Treat your spouse well. Nothing pleases parents more than knowing that their son or daughter is being well-loved and cared for.

2. Present a united front. Never squabble with your spouse in front of his or her parents. If you think hot issues may come up, discuss how you will deal with them ahead of time.

3. Contact them without waiting for them to contact you, and invite them over before they invite themselves. This allows you to get your home ready and to prepare yourself emotionally for a visit on your own terms.

4. Ask their advice, regardless of whether or not you plan to take it. Your spouse's parents will be glad to feel that they still have some influence on their child's life.

5. Be creative. If it bothers you that your mother-in-law always tries to do your dishes after dinner, offer her another task, such as serving coffee or playing with the baby.

6. If you and your in-laws are completely incompatible, just handle it as gracefully as possible, avoid contact whenever you can, and remember that even if you will never love your in-laws, they did something wonderful when they created your spouse.

Tips:
Avoid confrontations with your in-laws. Try to let criticism or differences of opinion wash over you.

Try to get along well with your in-laws, but don't let them take over. This can be especially important when grandchildren arrive. Set reasonable ground rules for everyone in the family.

Begin making your own cherished family holiday traditions at home, especially if family holidays become a tug-of-war about whose family to visit and it isn't possible to visit both. Or go out of town and enjoy the holidays in an entirely different way.

Answer 2

Inlaws and just plain family all interfer in your marriage because you are letting them.. Stand your ground. Now are the inlaws out to get U, if so, maybe hubby dearest is running to them complaining about you and your marital problem possibly.. You need to have a talk with him and see if this is somewhat the problem.. Its hard sometimes to satisfy the inlaws in ways, but in the end they usually pull through, just find out whats going on, and unless they absolutely can't stand you, they eventually will back off.. Just don't let it get to you, and most importantly don't let them know it bothers you either.. Good Luck!! :D

Answer 3

inlaws can be a big help with baby sitting and helping with your children when you need then too.

Families have interferences when the in-laws try to take over and interfer in the non-of - their business things. Example: family budget, dicipline of the children, family vacations etc....

Love your in-laws.just as you want your husband or spouse to love your parents. Both need boundaries....so set those up and enjoy one another.

Answer 4

Both depends on how they treat you and do they accept you. Be nice thank them for their help even tho they are mostly interfering. Let them know you are greatful if you need them you will let them know.You want to live your own lives make your own mistakes solve your own problem you and your partner want to deal with things your self you are mature adults starting life together. If they don't listen just tell them to but out. Remember talk with your partner first you don't want them off side otherwise an argument could escalate.

Answer 5

in my case only my mother in law is a hinderance. me and my husband have fought about this many times in fact that is probaly the only thing that we do fight about. Its a very tough situation on one side they are your partners family and becauce of that you have to respect them, on the other if they were anyone else you wouldnt put up with it why should you with them. My advice be honest with your partner let him know your concerns and ask him to talk with them they may be more open to hearing things if it comes from him/her if that doesnt work talk to them yourself but make sure you do it calmly if not it might make you blow up and look like the bad one. tell them the problem and say you would apprieciate them to back off a bit. Make sure you have your partners approval first you dont want to make him mad at you. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Depends. They can b of great help, if u need them. At the same time, they can b a real pain (usually behind yr back). It's tuf, but try to b detached n not show animosity, appear friendly at all times. Should be liveable. That's how I handle this issue n so far, we remain "cordial" at worst.

Answer 7

When a man takes a wife, he leaves father and mother and cleaves to his wife. A bit of bible for ya. They really should not be in your business, sounds to me like you live close to them. Talk to your husband let him know how you feel about the situation.

Answer 8

How does your husband react to them interfering? Have you tried to talk to your husband about this problem? How are your in-laws interfering?

Answer 9

take part in voting..if you are old enough!

If that doesn't work..write a note to your congressman/woman...and state your feelings..

if this still doesnt work..move or live on your own island!

Answer 10

i guess it depends on what laws, you know we do have law makers, and you do have the freedom to vote, if your not voting you cant complain.