We dated for a month before she broke up with me about 4 months ago. She said she wasn’t ready for an emotional relationship and she wanted us to be just friends. I was attached to her and I really couldn’t see myself being her friend and watch her go out with other guys, it was going to be too painful for me because I loved her, so I decided to cut off contact with her so that I can get over her. It has now been 2 months since we last spoke or saw each other and I miss her, clearly time didn’t make me get over her because I still love her and I feel this urge to talk to her again to find out how she's doing, but i think she'll be angry with me for ignoring her.
What should I do? Should I call her and ask her how she is, how she feels and how she’s doing or shouldn’t I?
2006-08-14 21:51:16 · 12 answers · asked by lacoste 3 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Figure out if you are in love with HER,or are you in love with being in love.If you are in love with her,then respect her wishes to just be friends...give her time and maybe she'll come back to you. Call her like nothing happened and talk to her as a friend,if she keeps in contact with you then her decision to break it off was probably a legitimate reason(maybe things where moving to fast)...on the other hand if she doesn't treat you like a friend should she may not have any feelings for you,then its time to move on.
2006-08-14 22:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by ♀Mañana♥^¥ ♪☺↕♫©⢠size= 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you call her it will make things harder for you to get over her. If you call and hear her happy, will that make you happy or would it make you miss her more?
If you sit down and write a letter to her (you don't necessarily have to post it when you finish) with all your feelings, hopes, wishes, the pros and cons of your time together and what you want in the future.
At the very least, this should help you feel better. Then if you don't want to send the first one, write another one saying what you really feel and why you distanced yourself.
And I reckon two months isn't a long time to get over someone either, even if you went out only for a month.
2006-08-15 05:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by olly_olemassa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez- this is a hard one... I think you need to look out for yourself. If I were in your position, I'd probably send her a card or an email to let her know you are still thinking of her. But thats it. By telling her you still think about her, you are letting her know that you are still interested. But by not having any additional contact until she decides to contact you- you are protecting yourself. Hey! Enjoy being single and take this time to get to know yourself.
2006-08-15 11:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jemima 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she was the one that broke up with you, she should be the one to contact you. It's really hard to give up on someone you love but you need to do that and move on. There's someone better and more suited to you out there who will love you like crazy.
2006-08-15 04:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
hmm..i think you should't call or think about her anymore..its over.no more feeling or time for you to get back with her..things already clear now..she is not really love you..u see in the first place she saying to you that she just wanted to be JUST FREND ok.so it s mean that she not interested in you..well and i think she already with someone who she 's really can get along with n love him..you are the only frend of her JUST FRENd ok.so you should look at you future with another girls out they..sweet memory
2006-08-15 05:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by sher_2005 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on. The more you pine for her, the harder for you to let go. If she is mad at you for staying away, you would have known that much by now. Have somebody told you that she is mad at you? Spare yourself the heartbreak. If she wanted to talk to you, she'd let you know. :)
2006-08-15 05:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jo Ann 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have been in the same situation as u man and i kno its hard but friends are more important than gf's cuz friends are forever so wat im tryin to say is that u should call her tell her how u feel bout her and become friends again and in time who knows wat could happen. But if it is meant to happen it will happen
2006-08-15 06:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure, come on boy, as soon as posible do it, show her that you still love her, and respect her feelings,
when you show her that you still care about her , and her feelings then she will love you until death,
2006-08-15 05:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jane Doe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe now she's ready for a relationship. call her quick, she's probably just waiting for your call.
2006-08-15 04:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by Likki888 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
try writing a letter...
2006-08-15 04:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by dosey-rosey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋