A girl I work with is driving me nuts. I used to really like her, now I can hardly stand her.?

Question

We've worked together for about 6 years, but got closer with her in the last 3 years. In the last year I 've gotten to know her even better and discovered she is manipulative, has no self control (food, men, pot). She 's asked me on more than one occassion if she could use my credit card (of course I said no), or to lend her money (no, also). As a friend she doesn't seem to be too interested when I have something on my mind, but always wants my shoulder to cry on. She thinks men are always checking her out and talks like a phone sex operator on the phone (my opinion), and says the "f" word a lot, when she slams the phone down when she is frustrated (which is a lot). We sit right next to each other. I can't move because of how our office is set up. She's just so unprofessional that it is embarrassing when other people are around. I try really hard not to be judgemental, but I've had my fill. I spoke to my supervisor twice about her swearing, but don't know if anything was done about it

Answer 1

Then talk to your supervisor again. Swearing is a indirect form of harrassment. I take it she's no lady, then? LOL ........

Answer 2

Sometimes it takes a bit more time for a person to show his/her true colours isn't it? Looks she is getting so comfortable with you that her facade is down, when she's with you. Well, you have to be truthful with her and let her know that her behaviour is not acceptable and you will not tolerate them. Threaten to break up the friendship if she continues with such behaviour! If you wish to continue the friendship, then you have to accept her as she is.

Answer 3

I would talk to her about it on a lunch break or whatever and if that doesn't work then it's time to give her the cold shoulder...she doesn't sound like much of a friend to me...

Answer 4

Cold shoulder time. Sounds cruel...highly effective