my best friends are fightin and i am caught in the middle of it. at the moment i am trying to hang around with both of them but i am soo sick of it changin and move half way through my breaks, and the really problem is if i hang out with one of them more than the other, the other one gets s**ty at me. i love them both like they are sister and i dont want to loose eirther of them what am i goin to do.
2006-08-14 21:18:40 · 11 answers · asked by EmmY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Arrange to meet them both in a local park and when they both arrive tell them both you are taking tme out from them both until they sort themselves out and then walk away from them both......
Go and make some more friends....
2006-08-14 22:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, the same thing's happening to me, only I'm the one that the other person hates, putting my son & daughter-in-law in the middle. I've not pushed my son or his wife to be loyal to me, and I am quite content that they are friends with this person. But I know where you're coming from. It's very awkward. Too bad my son can't do what would be the best thing to do, and that would be to tell both parties that he can no longer be friends with either one of us until we both "kiss" and make up. I'm more than willing, but the other person is not. It sounds like both of your friends are very immature in their actions towards you, and need to allow you space to be friends with whomever you desire. They need to work this thing out themselves and not drag you into their dramas. So, telling them that until they can work out their irritations with each other, shake hands and come out friends, you will no longer be the middle man in their lives. Tell them that you care about them very much, but this is wearing you out and isn't fun on your part. If your friendship is at all important to them, they'll work it out without you. If not, find other friends. I'm sure they're not the only people around that like your company. And maybe losing your friendship might be the thing that makes them realize they need to put this behind them. It might work...it might not. You have more to gain than lose. Tell them that you'll be sitting out your breaks without them if they can't get it together. Then, bring a book to your next break and sit in a different spot, and watch what happens. Hopefully, for everyone's sake, they'll get tired of hating each other, and grow up. <*)))><
2006-08-15 04:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there what a shame for you ,if i was you get a hold of both of them and let rip at them both ,tell them that if they dont want to talk to each other then dont but stop the bull s**it in my direction this will give them both a shock and tell them till they get it sorted then stay well away form you as you are not being played by either of them as sweet heart thats what they are doing they are both watching you try to please them both ....dont panic they will both sort this disagrement out a lot quicker when they realise that youre no fool and will not be played like this you take care xx
2006-08-15 04:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit them both down and make them realise that the fight is not between you and them its between just them, and if they cant be friends then they need to stop being jealous because you want to hang out with the other one. Sometimes you need to drop friends because they are bringing nothing but negative energy around you, if they chose not to stop being so jealous and demanding maybe you should consider hanging out with other people. This happened to me before, I started hanging out with a new girl and my best friend at the time didnt like her and she got all mad at me just because of that.. sometimes people change and they need to understand that you are not the one doing anything wrong, its them.
2006-08-15 04:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear that you feel loyal to both of them and that you won't participate in any doggin on the other one and reassure them that when you are with the other one you won't allow her to slander the other's name either. People will respect you if they know that their name is golden with you. Also its no fun to dog on someone by yourself w/o someone agreeing or adding their 2 cents. Change the subject after you've stated your position. They'll get the picture.
Good luck!
2006-08-15 04:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ponderpink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thik the bes t thing to do is to try and settle them.make them see reasons why they should settle the dispute because you dont want to remain in the middle or do they want to loose you too?tell them whatever it is is not big enough to destroy the relationship they've built and infact life is too short to bear grudges.
2006-08-15 04:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit them down, side by side, and BLOW UP IN THEIR FACES! Tell them that if either of them wants to be your friend anymore, they'd better get their s**t together.
2006-08-15 04:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to both of them and explain to them that you do not want to loose either of them and that they are not being fair to you. They ought to learn to get along.
2006-08-15 05:24:50 · answer #8 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey.. you gotta tell them how you feel.. if they cant solve their problems.. then tell them not to get you involved.. you have been trying to be a good friend.. take a break.. what you need are better friends that them...
2006-08-15 04:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by aaditya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately they are the ones with the problem, just walk away for a few days, & let them know you,ve had eneuogh, & it is hurting you so much to see this, mabey when your gone they,ll grow up.
Only my suggestion.
2006-08-15 04:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋