Sex before marriage?

Question

I know this is an age old question, but I still like to see everyone's thoughts and opinions. What do you think about sex before marriage, and why?

Answer 1

Here's how I feel about it. I know it's not the Christian thing to do....but to me......love making is part of your relationship. What if you get into it, and that part is a dud.....and your partner can't satisfy you. Whether people want to admit it or not......that's part of the relationship and if you're not satisfied you won't be happy. To each their own on that one though. I think it's ok, when you care about someone and are sharing intimacy such as this....but i don't think it's ok to get crazy with it, be a ho or anything like that. Nobody wants a partner that has been around the block and back a few times. I think it's ok, yes, if you do it right....if that makes sense.

When you're ready.....you're ready.

Answer 2

Sex before or after marriage is up to you. It is a very personal thing. If you are religious and believe it is wrong then don't do it. You will feel guilt for a long time. If you are not then take into consideration the ramifications of having sex outside of marriage. Depending on your age, if you are a teenager you have to sneak around and find a place to have sex. If you don't have protection once you do have sex, then you have to worry about deceases, and unwanted pregnancy, like many of the girls that are on here. They write and tell how heart broken they are if they are pregnant. They are scared to death and rightly so. If you are a teenager you should at least be intelligent to have birth control and be protected by a condom.

If you are old and on your own then their is the same thought as above without your parents involved. You and live with someone to then have sex with them in the relationship. There is not guarantee that will last. Only that you have now not a virgin. You nothing to show for it.

If you are married then have sex then you know that you were gallant enough to wait and if you are the woman .. you get the house. LOL.

So having sex before or after marriage is your choice. It is an Adult choice. There is no right or wrong... Just a choice and how you feel about yourself and your life.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Marriage is a HUGE commitment, especially if you believe in marriage until death! I got married at 19, and have been with the same guy since I was 15, and I totally believe in sex with a committed partner. I am also a mother, and while I don't agree with promiscuity, I also don't expect my daughter to wait until marriage unless she so chooses. I do however expect her to be protected, well informed, in a caring relationship with the person she chooses, to have self respect and a life seperate from that of her significant others. Hopefully I will set a good example for her, and I will not encourage her to have sex before marriage.

Answer 4

OH YES to that question (not that you should go around sleeping with everyone you go out on a date with, you should at least wait a while). I also think you should live with someone before marriage. You cannot just magically know if you are going to sexually click with someone and well... knowing someones demeanor when in their own home 24 hours a day is a bonus to marriage. I have known far too many people that just jumped in and regretted it for one or both reasons in the end. Too many people rush into marriage and not enough into learning about each other , both sexually and mentally. Having sex and living with someone open up brand new ways of thinking about someone.


P.S. What are your thoughts on the subject?

Answer 5

In general I think it's up to the person, if they want to wait for religious reasons or whatever, go ahead. But that's their business and it's not the only way, it's not something that should be portrayed as truth.

Personally, I'm probably not going to wait for marriage, but I'm not going to the only person I want to have sex with is female so there's a little bit less of a risk there. Even so I'm not going to sleep with someone just to do it. I want a serious, meaningful, committed relationship before sex.

Answer 6

Well Bible says it wrong and this question will lead to sermons from people. But I had sex before being married at 21 and did it safe and resposible. I am drug and diese free. I found the girl I love we had one kid got married and now have a second kid. With out going through past relationships I would not have had mistakes to learn from so I think it made me a better adult and father and husband

Answer 7

Use birth control and condoms. Do what you must. Shoot for a relationship with the elements of mutual respect and trust. Understand that without marriage the commitment is low. Make mistakes. Forgive yourself. Learn. Grow.

Answer 8

I think sex before marriage is wrong, because there is no commitment. Also, when that happens it never seems to end very well.

Answer 9

It is really up to the Person I found the Man of my life that I want to spend the rest of life with but we are not married and We have sex, But we live together

Answer 10

well I think of it this way.. You wouldn't buy a car you've never taken on a test drive why would you marry someone you don't know your compatible with in bed? Sure theres intellect and personality but in the real world if theres no sparks in the bedroom than your relationship is doomed. Especially if it's a relationship your supposed to be committed to for life.