she doesnt count that as real sex so should i be consitered as her first ? we really hope so i really love her and weve been together fo 1yr and 5 months
2006-08-14 21:10:32 · 18 answers · asked by jesse b 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
First of all It's called a 'hymen'. This is the membrane that is ruptured during first intercourse. Of course, through horseback riding, bike riding, etc. Most girls don't always have this in tact by the time they reach puberty.
I don't think she could still be considered a virgin and technically you would be her first real lover.
But it doesn't really matter... does it? If you love her.
2006-08-14 21:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kitia_98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...so here's the deal. A labia refers to the outer "lips" and inner "lips" of the vagina...nothing to do with losing virginity. I think you are referring to the hymen which is usually torn during a woman's first sexual encounter. They hymen may at some point kind of reconnect but honestly it doesn't matter. If you are young and don't have sex for 4 years you are going to have just as much discomfort as you would have if you were a virgin. Give her a break, she was a victim of a horrible crime to her body and soul. She is still a virgin at heart because she was not willing and had no control over what happened to her. Why does it matter?
2006-08-14 21:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by chrissy757 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if everything grew back together or not, but a rape should not be considered as "the first". When you get married, you can look forward to being with a virgin.
2006-08-15 01:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was rape, i am truely sorry that happen to your g.f. and i would concerning you her first.it
would never concerner being rape has her first sex encounter.Your are a good man and she is lucky to have found you.You seem to me a caring and kind man.So yes you are her first encounter.Enjoy each other and have a wonderful life together.
Clowmy
2006-08-14 21:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not Labia, Hymen. If it was torn during the rape it will not grow back, although many girls tear their hymen through vigorous excercise even though they're virgins.
I believe if you love her, these sorts of things shouldn't bother you
2006-08-14 21:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether you're first or not, what matters is you support her with what you found out about her -- being raped....
the least that you could do now is to give her your understanding so you could have a lasting relationship....
you should make her feel that no matter what happened to her, you will stand by her side...
2006-08-14 21:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mike_Cruiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T matter ...If you love the one your with and they love you back what more do you need? Be thankful and cherish the time you have together-life is very short!
2006-08-14 21:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by budlowsbro420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it can nt make her a virgin in medical terms but love does not look at such things because something nasty hapened against her wish and she was unfortunate to loose her virginity in that.
2006-08-14 21:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone is a virgin until they consent. Rape doesn't make a person dirty or take away their purity. It makes them a survivor.
2006-08-16 16:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WAS RAPED AT 10 AND TO ME I WAS A VIRGIN WHEN AT 18 I DECIDED 2 "DO IT " BECAUSE IT WAS MY CHOICE THEN JUST BE CONSIDERATE LIKE YOU SAID. BECAUSE IT REALLY WILL BE HER FIRST TIME WITH OR WITHOUT HER HYMAN
2006-08-14 21:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by meemeemee40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋