Please help, guys this is on sex, i need major help!!!!?

Question

My bf and i have been together for almost a year and a half now and we have everything in common and we agree on everything!We talked about getting married and he wants to in four months, we are twenty two years old and i love him with a passion!But he wants to have sex, and i am a bit scared and nervous because it would be my first time.He has had two experirnces and i am embarrassed to talk to him and tell him to be gentle and that i'm a virgin.Guys how do i tell him that without him thinking of me as a scared freak?He is a great guy and he is not preasuring me because he only asked once and he thinks that whatever i say goes, i just want to please him because he is good to me but if i'm scared how do i do that?What would you guys do if you were going to have sex with a virgin?

Answer 1

Well my dear, you are to be commended, and if you think he will think less of you when you tell him you are a virgin, think twice. One of the weird things is life of a man, is that they want to go out and deflower all the girls they before they get married, (generally speaking) but then when the time comes to marriage, they want to find that one virgin. He is one of the luckiest man in the world. Why would you think of taking that away from him. He only asked you for sex once, most likely it was the heat of the moment and you were wise enough to keep your head. If he is not pressuring you then so much the better.

You have found a winner and he has found the biggest winner of all. So keep your holster tide down and his gun at his waist. Good luck and be sure you do talk to him, before the marriage and be sure you talk to him about everything. Marriage is hard enough without keeping secrets.

Best Wishes and Good Luck .... You are one of the Special Intelligent Women in the world.

Answer 2

WoW i dont think ive known a girl 2 be 22 and still be a virgin.. Ok u shouldnt be embarassed to talk to him. If your getting married you are going to have to tell him things that are farrr worse than this. Im sure hes not going to go at it like a wild animal if its your first time lol. Just tell him what you feel, dont tell him u want to do it.. let it come at the right time, if u plan it u will be nervous and it wont be half as good. but girl dont be afraid to talk to him!! :) goodluck

Answer 3

If he is a nice guy he will understand.
From all I have read the first time for a girl virgin is not the best time.
As a guy the first time stays with you forever. You never forget your first time and it is always good.
Perhaps a woman never forgets her first time but for different reasons.
If you have marriage in mind I suggest you start sharing yourself with your lover, your thoughts, dreams, hopes, wants and bodies.
I am not saying you should share sex but I am saying you need to be honest with him, and he with you.
If he thinks you are a scared freak, perhaps he is not good enough for you.
Becoming one through an expression of bodily love first requires becoming one through understanding each other through words and feelings.

Answer 4

dont think too much think that is he is the right person to marry u. and ur virgin when u had sex u will lose ur virgin now r after sex. if he is ur on coming husband than y fearing go on. but ple use safety message before marriage use condom before marriage sex
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Answer 5

It's no big deal. If the boy really loves you, he will certailnly respect your decision. Preserve it as it the best thing you could gift and be proud of to your future husband.

Answer 6

u want to please him? wait for ur wedding night. by the way, hes the 1 person u are supposed to be free with. i lost my virginity and i can do almost anything out there to get it back n save it for my wedding night. think twice.
He aint pushing u coz he loves u, so dont pressure urself.

Answer 7

Just tell him straight... but i don't see why you should be scared... both of you are getting married and its just a matter of time.