Women seem to be just as or even more harsh towards gays than men are, just less outspoken. Agree/disagree?

Question

I find that women often are portrayed as more accepting of gay men than straight men are; however, I find that when women candidly speak their minds they are oftentimes even more hateful and cruel towards gay men than straight men are. Women just tend to keep their thoughts to themselves and rarely would say them directly to a gay man, instead only making comments in the company of other straight people. Some of the most hateful comments that I have ever heard about gay men have come from straight women.
I realize that this is a sweeping generalization, but I tend this in a very general way.

Answer 1

I think that women in general do not confront men on many issues, including gay men. I assume that you are a straight woman (I am not), and are therefore privy to conversations that go on among those groups, so you would know better than I. For example, I hear anti-Semitic remarks all the time, that these same people would never say in the company of others, especially in front of Jews. People''s true colors come out when they believe they are in the company of like-minded folk. I have heard awful things said that demonstrate cultural biases from people who see themselves as PC. In the end, you are touching upon hypocrisy, an odious characteristic of mankind.

Answer 2

I do not agree... Females are more apt to befriend a gay man then a heterosexual man for many reasons but the main one I can think of is a heterosexuals fear... fear if he has a gay friend people will assume he is also gay, or fear of the unknown ( maybe a gay guy will hit on them or embarrass him in front of his other friends or even make a false claim that he was involved in some type of sexual act with them) This is just a brief idea of some of the issues heterosexual males have with gay males...
Woman don't have to worry about these issues so much... the only women I have seen first hand be straight out mean and or abusive to a gay guy is a lesbian... and ive seen that happen countless times... I'm sure there are many straight women that have issues with aggression towards homosexuals I just haven't seen it at the level you have... I guess part of that may have to do with where people live... and other factors...

alot ( I did not say ALL ) of women don't really require a legitimate reason to be bitchhie.... catch one at the wrong time of the month and all you have to do is breath in the wrong tone of voice LOL


Have you been out stealing straight women's men?? LOL joking

Answer 3

Ok....first of all I personally do not have anything against gay men. I have two male gay friends that are just amazing people and I love them each dearly. I think women in general can be rather catty so hearing you say that you've heard hateful comments from lesbians doesn't surprise me. I think that for most true lesbians the idea of "male parts" kinda grosses us out. So the idea of two "male parts" together is equally as gross. Now guys don't get cranky over this. You know you feel the same way about women parts! LOL!!! It's just what makes us different. However, I would never not dislike a guy just because he was gay.

Answer 4

I think that you're right and you're wrong. Alot of the hatred that is directed towards gay people stems from ignorance, bigotry and jealousy.

Women have always been thought of as more in tune with their feminine side and therefore more likely to empathise with gay men i,e, being able to communicate and interact with men in a non predatory way. This is fine and comfortable to some women. However some women feel more aggressive and intolerant towards gay people. That is the same with alot of things there is no one general answer as to how men or women feel about certain subjects.

The short of it is to 'generalise' men generally prefer to come straight out and say what they think whereas women can sometimes be more subtle and be seen as 'underhand.' Obviously this is a gay man's slant on things, but all I can say is that generalising or assuming that someone is going to react to anything because their 'sex 'reacts to things in a certain way is ridiculous and therefore assuming that all women are going to react to gay men the same way is missing the point to.

Answer 5

For me, I do adore gay men but not flamboyantly gay men. I have no problem with lesbian relationships or male homosexual relationships...unless it is over done and they are trying to make the straight population accept them. I understand that there are a lot of people who cannot accept others having this lifestyle but I think whatever makes you happy, makes you happy. It is my feeling that the reason women could have a difference in feelings between gay men and gay women may be a woman thing. Women of all sexual types can have very close and somewhat intimate relationship with other women without being homosexual since we are filled with estrogen and it makes us more relationship intensive. Therefore woman who aren't truly okay with homosexuality may be more accepting of lesbian relationships because they have a better understanding of the connection women have with each other. There is definitely a difference between non-homosexual same sex male and female relationships. Women tend to very close; discussing everything with each other and being affectionate when it is needed but men do not. As you are being general in your question, I am being general in my answer.

Answer 6

People who are not secure with their own sexuality tend to question or ridicule others. Don't waste your time or energy on people like this. They are bitter and uneducated and will probably never change. I personally have many gay friends that I wouldn't trade for a million bucks!

Answer 7

I'd have to agree with you their being a lesbian and I was raped is it any wonder why I dislike men in general, but not gay men?

Answer 8

They probably can't identify with us, but that's not excuse to be a ********.

Answer 9

well i personally dont feel this way