Serious concerns.....12 yr old boy....?

Question

My nephew just came to visit. We live in the country and my boy and him took a BB Gun in our woods (my son took bottles for target practice, too). Later that night I started a fire outside for the kids and my nephew says I have the perfect thing to throw in....he comes back and has a frog in his hands. I say "you can't throw a live frog in a fire....it's sick" he says "well, I put a BB in him already" I say "you shot it and left it alive to suffer" he says "yes". I took the frog from him and sure enough, he did....I put the frog in the fire....and felt sick...I yelled at my own son that I told him never ever shoot for fun....both my nephew and son swore that my son didn't do it. Later, my son told me that my nephew was out there shooting frogs and birds, picking frogs up, throwing them up against trees....etc...

This is weird behavior to me....it just doesn't seem right.....and I didn't even tell my story that well...it's just not right, right??

lindsay... I briefly thought of some way of putting the thing out of its misery quickly....but stepping on it or shearing its head off with scissors....I just couldn't...the fire took his life off my hands..and I still felt sick.....and besides, cutting his head off with scissors....uughh...no....

Answer 1

To be absolutely honest that kind of behavior is considered by many to be a warning of more serious problems when that child/person is older. Many violent criminals "started small".The issue isnt just shooting the frog but an intent to allow it to suffer, and even see what else could possibly be done to the poor creature . This is by no means an automatic condemnation of the child for life, but he should definately be evaluated. Such sadistic behavior may not stop with just frogs, and there are probably other signs of antisocial tendancies you can look out for.
Personally i wouldnt approach the boy, but keep my own child away and reccomend he be given help.

Answer 2

There are serious issues at hand when a child at that age exhibits that kind of behavior. You should talk with the boys parents and advise them of the situation. Then I suggest getting the boy some counselling. Torture of animals is definitely an abnormal behavior and this should be taken very very seriously.

Answer 3

This child needs serious psychological help immediately. I would send him home and have a serious talk with his parents. Many adults who grow up to be abusive to animals and other people have started off with this type of behavior when they are children. Jeffrey Dalmer who was a noted serial killer exhibited these types of behaviors when he was a child. There is actually a syndrome called Dalmer syndrome for someone who exhibits no conscious or remorse for anything that they do including torture and killing. This boy needs help now. If the parents are unable to control the situation, they need to have social services involved. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 4

I'm afraid this might be an on-set of a serious problem. You should definitely bring it up with boy's parents.

If a boy has a mind to torture animals, something is very very wrong. He might grow up into a criminal.

If some other boys do it too it doesn't mean it's normal.

Answer 5

Just a note: I was not able to finish reading your question because I could see that it was going to be far more disturbing that I feel like having in my head....

You're right. Serious, serious situation. Sorry I couldn't finish reading the story and give you an answer other than what I have.

Answer 6

This type of behavior is often a sign of later violence towards people. He has not been taught to respect life...even in animals. This child, and his parents need help. I would report this behavior to child services. Or social services..it can be done anonymously. I would def not let my children associate with this kid.

Answer 7

it relatively is a temper tantrum, and that's something extreme. it relatively is no longer "regular" in the sense of purely enable or no longer it relatively is and don't worry approximately it. I even have 5 infants, none have accomplished something to the quantity of what you describe. None have thrown temper tantrum. Now, they have unquestionably had rebellious moments, whilst they did the choice of what I stated or the place they refused to obey. And, those are dealt with immediately with a spanking. ideally, you nip the rebellious inclinations in the bud early and stay away from it coming up into something extra extensive like tantrums. verify you do no longer supply her what she needs as a consequence of the tantrum. do no longer bribe her to stop the tantrum; that purely encourages her to throw them sooner or later. ascertain there is a straight away detrimental result, and that i'd propose spanking. in case you do no longer take care of this, she in all probability isn't throwing tantrums in ten years, however the toddler that learns to control human beings to get their way and is effectual, will in all probability control and react badly to no longer getting their own way in different procedures whilst they are older. rebellion isn't something it is purely outgrown if left be, nevertheless it ought to alter into extra state-of-the-artwork in its expression.

Answer 8

That is wierd behavior and i think that the BB gun should be taken away from him. I think you should have a talk with your nephew's parents.

Answer 9

Yea sounds like he needs therapy...or just a lot of riddlin, my cousin is 12 also and he was very destructive, and he cussed and was just not a good kid but adhd medicine works very well with children like that.

Answer 10

you need to tell the parents and you need to get him help he needs to understand why he is feeling this way and whats going on this may be deeper then it seems, it may not be that he is sick but that something he has like mental is wrong and maybe he dont understand..i dont wanna think he is that cruel - I am sorry :(