What happens during pregnancy that makes women lose sexual interest or thoughts for partner? What can he do?

Question

Is there anything she or her partner can do to kindle the fire that was there before pregnancy?

Answer 1

Hi again! I thought I'd answer your other question too. I assume this is your partner and she is in early pregnancy?

So - first trimester. The first trimester is exhausting since she is building a baby, she most likely will not off early in the evenings - and want to - since she may be nauseous too. She will have a natural aversion to things that may harm the baby and this includes sex (her body knows the first trimester is a fragile time and wants to protect it). Her cervix is tender, her breasts are tender and she is nauseous and tired. No wonder sex isn't on her mind! Best thing to do here is masturbate alone for awhile, give her back rubs, spoon & cuddle her without poking your erection in her back! If she is feeling amorous (or generous!) fine, if not, wait it out. It will get better.

Second trimester - now she's got that pregnant glow, her skin is beautiful, her hair and nails are growing and she is feeling sexy, round and motherly. Blood flow is increased all over the body to supply the growing fetus and this also makes the genitals"puffy" - similar to the way you feel with an erection! Some women have orgasms or multiple orgasms for the first time. You will most likely have great sex during this timeframe.

Third trimester - now she's starting to feel bulky, uncomfortable and awkward. This won't be as bad as the first trimester but you will have to be more gentle and creative on sexual positions. The woman on top is good, also "spooning" from behind in bed. Deep penetration or thrusting may hurt a bit if you are large. It won't hurt the baby but she is tender inside and baby's head is down low so banging around in there too much isn't that fun. And like I said, semen does not start labor, it helps soften the cervix to prepare for labor but that's it, so don't worry about that.

Once baby is here, you'll need to go back to the first trimester instructions for awhile again, especially if she is breastfeeding. Don't be afraid to tell her she is beautiful and hopefully that will be the truth. Her stomach will be softer but her breasts (and the rest of her) bigger than before. Breastfeeding really helps shrink the weight right off, I hope you will encourage it. You may feel left out for awhile but by being helpful and supportive that will be a bigger turn-on than anything else you could be doing. For women, 90% of sex is emotional anyway. Be there for her and your child!

Answer 2

Every woman is different... some experience and increased sex drive and others a reduced sex drive. What you have to remember no matter what is that this is a temporary change brought on by hormones. There is no psychological trick you can use because the issue is more of a physiological one. Be sensitive to her needs right now, it could be that she is only in the mood a particular time in the day...many woman experience horrible sickness/heartburn in the afternoon and night and NOT the morning. That could totally be a bad time to make a move...maybe a a little early morning foreplay would be in order in that situation...also remember that the vagina is much less sensitive for the most part during pregnancy so if your lady had problems reaching orgasm on a regular basis you WILL have to work harder getting her there now.
If she isnt squeamish oral sex would be a great idea.
Breast can tend to be tender, swollen and sore... and as inviting as they may look now that thay are larger...take it easy, dont be offended if she doesnt want to be touched there.
Honestly your best bet is to pamper her, rub her belly, her back. her feet , all the places that trouble her now and maybe some light butterfly kisses on the back of her neck will get you what you want ^_^ Good luck and congrats!

Answer 3

The best thing you can do is to not take it personally. Tell her she is beautiful, hold her with no expectations and do as much for her as you can so she doesn't have a lot of stress.

Her body is very busy inside, even though you can't see it, and that makes a woman feel as though she's been running a marathon even when she hasn't even moved. Imagine when you've been at your most tired, you were probably only thinking about rest.........that's how she feels all the time.

Every woman is different, her desires may come back or they may not till after delivery. You can tell her that you find her sexy, but don't pressure her. She needs to know that you are there for her through this exhausting time and if you can do that; the wait will be worth it.

Tell her you love her and that you are there for her in every way. Best wishes.

Answer 4

i was actually more interested when i was pregnant, and my husband was the one who lost desire.

give her a break though - in the first trimester, she will be very fatigued and prolly nauseous. the second trimester is usually the most comfortable time for a pregnant woman, and in the third trimester, it gets harder and harder to have sex because if the growing tummy.

try to find ither ways to connect with her, like just cuddling and talk to her about her feelings, it may open her up and make her more turned on if she feels that her emotional needs are being met.

good luck, i know how frustrating it can be to be rejected when you just want sex... just to let you know though, don't expect it to get better right away once she has the baby.. there's the 4-6 weeks of celebacy after to allow for healing.. and even then, if she's not too horny now, she'll be even less so because of hormones fluxuating, fatigue from baby waking up and stuff like that. settle in for the long haul and i wish you the best!

Answer 5

The hormones can do some funky things to a woman's body when she is pregnant, so it is a possibility. She could also be scared of being pregnant, scared about getting fat and losing you, totally freaked out by everything. Talk to her, and be there for her. Learn what you can learn about what is going on inside her body. Make sure she knows she is not alone.

Answer 6

i didnt lose interest ,but it could be because she doesn,t feel sexy anymore, with all the body changing and all, yeah just let her know how sexy she is , dont do it to much than she'll think your just saying it to make her feel good, and thats not a good thing,take her out even when she does't want to go out,this should help a bit ,congrats and good luck

Answer 7

She's like knocked-up dude, and you wanna keep poking at her? Give her a break, big boy, and go jack off for a little while.
Look up these phrases: "self-centered jerk"; "understanding and compassion".

Answer 8

when i got pregnant i lost that too. Tell the guy to do a lot of four play...!! and what makes a women like that is her harmones.

Answer 9

each girl is different. try being exceptionally sensitive and loving. foot rubs, and extra attention.. don't overdo it.. look for the little things you can do for her.
only a suggestion.. i had the extreme opposite problem while pregnant.!!

Answer 10

A.....gaining 75 pounds.