My ex is on my mind constantly, and its driving me insane. I met her at disneyland and fell in love with her right away watching her comfort my little 5 year old cousin who was scared of the ride, and went out with her for six to nine months without ever seeing her more than the 5 minutes i did that very same day we met. All the anticipation built up from promises that id see her someday again, and dreaming and fantasizing about finally seeing her, and it never went away. After about nine more months, I started dating my current girlfriend who ive been with for over ten months now. After I had dated my new gf for 6 months, I saw my ex on a trip to disneyland for about five hours or more, and I didnt do anything but talk to her a lot, and just hang out, because i love my new gf, and dont want to do anything to upset her. Even though I feel that i will never part with my new gf, I still feel the need to have that face to face time i never had with her (especially a kiss...). Help...
2006-08-14 19:52:05 · 7 answers · asked by Brian H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok... the disney girl..... you have fantasized about and put her up on a pedestel. It's no wonder she's on your mind, you think that she's perfect(or close to it). You say that you don't know what to do and the time thing wont work, well maybe this will... The reason why people say "time will help" is becasue in time you will choose not to think of her so much and then it lessen and lessen til one day your over it. Did you get the "you choose" of what I just said. The choice is yours you will choose to stop thinking about when she comes to mind, when you want too. You will get over this disney girl when you choose to. Time does work because the pain or thoughts don't have as big of pay off and no one wants to be in agony for all time. I know this maybe coming on a little ruff, but you barely knew this girl and I bet that if you were able to see this girl as much as you had wanted too you would not be feeling the way that you do now.
Every time she comes into your mind you need to make yourself think about somthing else. I am sure that you are trying to keep a lid on this but your girlfriend on some level feels that she does not have all of you and to continue to think so much of another will cause problems.
Good luck I know what is it like getting over someone that you desperately wish to be with. It will go away in time if you choose it. Start healing yourself you are much more powerful then you give yourself credit for.=)
2006-08-14 21:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by shiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand what you are having a problem with. Are you saying you are in love with two women? If you love your new gf, you should have stopped thinking about the "ex" by now. If you are thinking that you will not be happy until you know for sure that you and your "ex" cannot be together, then I don't think it is fair for you to pretend you love your new gf when you still have such strong feelings for the "ex". You will either have to put the feelings for the "ex" aside and love your new gf only, or drop your new gf and see if you really do have a chance of being with your "ex". That is the only solution I can think of.
2006-08-15 03:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by 420Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like me in so many ways there ... but honestly you'll probably be missing that for years ... i dont want to sound like a bring down but its true ... i still have moments when i think about the 1st guy i fell for ... should have been but never got the chance ... everything could have been different but here we both are ... its never easy wanting someone or missing them .. even though you know what you got now is better ... the only thing i can say really is , love the girl your with now ... shes there for you when the other wasnt ... and make sure she knows how you feel about her ... and make her feel special every chance you get ... or else she'll be the next girl you cant get off your mind .... i just hope your not like me in that way .... good luck
2006-08-15 03:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so melodramatic. Waxing poetic about a kiss never shared. Sigh... Either start a career writing cheesy romance novels, break up with your girlfriend before you cause her any undeserved heartache, or man up and and start giving your girl all of your love and attention like she deserves.
2006-08-15 03:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a past is a past
u know have a gf. u can do ur "kiss" thing with her
even it's not the same. u're grown up. please, me as a girl not respect a kinda boy that had a feeling like that.
2006-08-15 02:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by rygye13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't have EX in your life then u wont be insane.stick to one always.in this turmoil you are not true to u r ex or current.
if your mind is steady you wont find the other one attractive
2006-08-15 04:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by cipotli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT EVERYONE HAS LOVED THAT ONE PERSON WHO IS LIKE KRYPTONITE FOR THEM, JUST CAN'T HELP IT, I REALLY WOULDN'T WORRY ABOUT IT UNLESS YOU THINK THAT YOU MAY ACT ON SOMETHING THAT WOULD HURT YOUR CURRENT GIRLFRIEND. EACH LOVE IS DIFFERENT AND THERE IS A SEASON FOR EVERYTHING.
2006-08-15 03:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by Work-N-Hrd-2-Mk-It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋