First of all I recently turned 16.
A few weeks ago I was forbidden from seeing my best friend, the only person who understands and seems cares about me, just because he now told everyone he is gay!
It is not fair, my parents know he is the only person I have outside the family to talk to! I really care about him too, more than life itself... He was also helping with some issues I have with myself too, my parents know he was why I stopped self-harming a couple months ago! So they know he is obviously a good person!
So why will they not allow me to see him?! Do you know how I can convince them to let me be around him again? I really miss him...
:'-(
2006-08-14 19:31:08 · 22 answers · asked by Jesse 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hey Jesse, Dont listen to these idiots that are so damn mean, stupid hateful people.
Its not fair, but life is not fair, and you will find in time that many people will judge you for being gay. Dont let it stop you from being who God made you to be, he is testing your resolve.
Dont hurt yourself over this, If your gay, and you feel like you can tell them, then do. If not, then dont, its not necassary right now in your life to tell them.
Continue to try and stay in contact with him if you can, tell your parents that he is your best friend and that his sexual preferences have nothing to do with that friendship, (even if they do).
If they will not allow you to see him, I suppose your still a minor and have no choice right now, but Im sure if you really want to see him you will find a way. Parents can only control your life so much.
2006-08-14 19:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by arielsalom33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They probably think given that this person is a strong influence in your life, that his values will rub off on you causing you to experiment with the the gay side of the force.
They will let you see him if you can convince them you arent ever going gay, or by getting a girlfriend, which would help their doubts as they would see you are your own person and not so easily persuaded into things.
If you are gay, I would hide the pink fluffy lightsabre under the bed for a while, they are not ready to hear it right now.
Good luck, don't harm yourself it won't help anything, if you are feeling bad try going to a doctor, maybe he can help.
All the best Janet
2006-08-16 02:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jessie -- This is a sad situation. But when you mention self-harming, that concerns me. Because he was helping with that, and now he's not.
If you think it's going to be a problem again, please try to talk to an adult you trust who will understand. If you don't know of one, there might be organizations near you that can help. You're facing some questions that anyone might need help sorting out ... and this list is not qualified.
Sometimes life is hard when you're growing up but still living at home. Right or wrong, it sounds like your parents care about you.
2006-08-15 07:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by Luis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents can be over protective, I am a Parent myself so I know. What you need to do is sit down and talk to your Parents and explain how you feel, do this in a calm way, without slamming the door and I think you will find they will listen to you. A bit of flattery goes well with us Parents so tell them you know they are trying to help, but also you should point out that if they continue like this they will push you away, hope this works
2006-08-15 05:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by teddytops 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about the previous answers. Those people are beyond stupid. As for your problem, I wish people would finally get over all these idiotic prejudices. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your parents, and what your circumstances are. Can you still see your friend at school? Maybe you could stay in touch via emails & IM's? I know it's not the same. Maybe you could sit down with your parents and discuss what their concerns are, I mean, what are they worried about? How did they feel about him before he 'came out'? He is still that same person. I wish I could help you, I'm sorry you have to go through all this!
2006-08-15 02:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by tanja_christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents don't hate you, they are just scared of people different from them. Its not an excuse - because hating someone and telling your child not to see them just because they are gay is not excusable - but it might help you make some sort of sense out of this.
Why don't you sit down with your parents and ask them, exactly, why they don't want you to see your best friend. Just listen to them, although you know that will be hard, without getting upset. Then, make sure they listen to you. Tell them how much you miss seeing him, how much he means to you, and how much you can't understand why they don't want you to see them.
Maybe if you talk to them, they will realize how stupid they are being and let up. I hope so. Good luck.
2006-08-16 00:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask them why you cannot see him. They are probably scared that you will catch being gay of him !
If you are 16 you can technically leave home if you can afford to do this but do not use this as a threat but try persuading your parents he is s good person and him being out of your life could lead to you self harming again
good luck
2006-08-15 02:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by honeypot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably somehow fear he will convert you to being gay like it was something contagious. Or they think he wants a dating relationship with you
If you talked to your parents seriously that you are not gay and just value his friendship it might help. Also you could say to them that you were friends with him when you did not know he was gay and don't think it's right to abandon your friends just because they have a problem.
Perhaps if you hung it with him in a group that was mixed guys and girls in a group they would be cool with it because there would be a lot of people.
2006-08-15 03:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by inzaratha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't understand why some parents are like that, maybe they are protecting you from other people who will think you are gay but there is nothing wrong of being gay. Tell them how you feel and let them understand that your friendship is important to you.
2006-08-17 14:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by confused_fozz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somehow they thing by being friends with a gay person, they'll turn you gay. In their minds, they're protecting you. You should be able to choose who your friends are and who they aren't. If he's done so much for you, continue being friends, especially after all he has done for you. Parents don't have to know everything in your life. Tell them what he means to you as a friend and you want him in your life
2006-08-15 10:19:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋