and wanted to kick you out everytime you got in an arguement would you just move out?he wants to get married & loves me so much but then wants to break up over everything,we live together in his house. I love him but im tired of that threat everytime we disagree,its so immature. he starts most of the arguements over nothing. when we get along its great, but he nit pics. i dont want to lose him but im thinking about getting my own place. when we make up he says he doesnt mean it he really dont want me to move out, which i dont want to but i think he does it just to get his way, and i feel manuplulaited, what should i do ?
2006-08-14 19:27:22 · 16 answers · asked by sexy momma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ouch. That'd drive me crazy. I'm not going to suggest you leave his *** or anything, but I will say I couldn't deal with it. What the hell is he going to do when you two actually have a real problem if he threatens to leave every time you have a little tiff? I couldn't handle it. Good luck to you though. Something tells me you'll need it.
2006-08-14 19:31:37 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this, but it will never change. It is a form of abuse to make a woman feel that she has no security, and that your fiance can kick you out of "his" home at any time. If he feels this way now, he will continue to feel this way after you are married, and he will never stop this behavior, even if he tells you he will. This situation is just the beginning of an abusive relationship. Believe me, I have been in this exact situation, and it will not stop, only get worse. This man does not sound like a good match for you.
2006-08-14 19:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by 420Linda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ARE being manipulated. It sounds like he is not mentally stable enough to handle conflict. And the fact that he nit pics you over everything sounds like he is easily aggravated. Not a very good choice for a life partner. He is controlling you emotionally. Time to take a stand and tell him exactly how you feel whether he wants to hear it or not. If he tries to cut you off when you are telling him this then you need to look right at him, eye to eye, and say "Look, if you really love me and want me to stick around, you are just gonna have to listen to what I say. If you don't want to listen to what I have to say, then you don't really love me and it is time for me to move on!" You have to drop the ultimatum on him. Otherwise he will continue to manipulate you until you have no self esteem left to fight him and then just be his little puppy obeying everything he says. Don't give in to Prince Charming. Stand your ground. You owe it to yourself to be happy. Good luck...
2006-08-14 19:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by teashy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd get out. It won't get any better and there's the chance of bringing children into this someday. I met my ex-husband when I was 16, we had a child when I was 19 and I left him when I was 20. I'm 32 yrs old and we still argue. You deserve better from someone, not to mention your children if you have some someday.
2006-08-14 19:37:55 · answer #4 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him his threats to kick you out are hurtfull and undermines your entire relationship. Tell him it is ok to be mad but that good communication with a sincere desire to find a solution is the best practice. And tell him if he threatens to kick you out you will leave. Talk to a girlfriend and make arrangements to sleep on her couch for a few nights if he does it again. Good luck!
2006-08-14 19:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truthfully, he says he respects you inspite of the undeniable fact that it is somewhat sparkling from what he reported that he doesn't. He might want to were indignant yet that's no excuse, and inspite of how indignant he grow to be, i'm constructive that he doesn't have reported those issues about in uncomplicated words desiring sex had there no longer been some ounce of truth in it. you may want to sense like you desire him to be easily sorry because you've spent 8 months with him yet when I were you, as not person-friendly because it may be, i'd take it as an journey, study from it and flow on. His behaviour in course of you on Valentine's day grow to be disgraceful, flirting with women human beings even as he's with you, swearing at you, ignoring you, merely because he doesn't get his personal way is infantile. If he cared about then you definately he might want to have adequate understand to verify your decision. He might want to were rude because of what his coworker advised him yet this grow to be after Valentine's day even as he had already been a complete douche. i imagine you opt to flow on, he doesn't look like a great boyfriend in any respect... Sorry :/ you may do more effective efficient than that..
2016-11-25 01:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wants to kick you out everytime you argue...
wants you to stay and not move out....
looks like both of these have happened....which of these are you convinced the most...do you see remorse in his eyes during the second scenario and the anger n hatred in the first scenario?
does he show any signs of depression....
if you truly love and are willing to forget and forgive a few things - sit with him and talk to him about it....tell him its in the best interests of the relationship....
2006-08-14 19:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by zombie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not worth it. Can you imaging having to deal with the every time you have a dissagreament for the rest of your life?
Get out while you can,
2006-08-14 19:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by pinseter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, i used to have a boyfriend who used to be like that. Even if you don't argue with him, whatever you did to anger him, he would threaten for a break up.
I really hope to suggest to you that, once a marriage has been fixed between you and him, you will be facing that kind of stress for your entire life. Please think thrice.
2006-08-14 21:08:07 · answer #9 · answered by PinkDolphin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Preserve your self dignity.
Relationships And Self Development
http://www.yourromanceguide.com/articles/relationships/relationships-and-self-development.php
2006-08-14 23:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋