I have been having problems in my marriage and lately I have been coresponding with my ex. He too is unhappy in his relashonship and we have been talking about possibly hooking up. I don't know if I should go down this road, any advice would help
2006-08-14 19:17:18 · 22 answers · asked by gentlehands 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stick to your husband. If your "ex" was right for you, he wouldn't be your ex, instead he would be your husband.
If you are having problem with your husband that can't be worked out, divorce him first then move on. Otherwise it is called cheating. Sorry to be so blatant.
2006-08-14 19:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by Vitamin C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by "hooking up"? If you mean seeing each other behind your spouses' backs, the obvious answer to this would be "don't". You are both grown adults who should know the consequences of these types of actions. Is it too much effort to try working on your marriages? If staying with your current spouses is not an option, do the right thing and get a divorce first before getting back with each other so that other people in your lives don't get hurt.
2006-08-15 02:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up with your Ex in the first place? That should be the first question. Second, why would you want to go down that road again when you already having problems with your current hubby. If you bait the Ex, your Husband might find out then conflict could errupt and you could drive your Ex out of his relationship, which could get better even if your's doesn't. Do this one thing at a time. Concentrate on your current hubby. If things don't get better then get out of that relationship, and if he happens to leave his wife, then you two could talk about hooking up again, but don't make it a divorce pact with your Ex, like "I'll leave my spouse if you leave yours."
2006-08-15 02:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage always runs into problems off and on. You can deal and work out or you can run away and start another. You were married before and you and your ex are corresponding and wow he is having problems too. Isn't that great. If you get connected with your ex are you going to correspond with you husband?
You should be corresponding, talking with your husband and try to work out the problems you see. Your ex is from your past and there is a reason he is your ex. Did you forget?
Put as much effort communicating with you husband as you are with your ex and see how it goes. You need to stop all corresponding with your ex if you are interested in saving your marriage.
2006-08-15 04:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been down that road before-- maybe you never stopped loving your ex and think you can recapture those moments.
Maybe you can and maybe not-- I did not recapture those moments because she became the ***** again I knew that she was from the start. On the other hand, true love never dies,and I had to stop looking at our relationship through rose colored glasses,because I knew inside we would not get along forever.
Don't let the troubles in your present marriage dictate the future.
Extricate yourself from your current marriage before you jump in the fire again.
2006-08-15 02:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should have never married your current husband if you still had feelings for your ex. That stuff should have been resolved before you got married. Remember....ex's are ex's for a reason. Spend that time working on your marriage instead of talking to your ex. Good luck?
2006-08-15 02:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear there,
first of all, you need to know what actually goes wrong between you and your husband. Then, why both of you decided to get married in the first place. Do you really want to have the seperation with your husband? Is that what you want?Are you so sure that your Ex. can give you what you want?
2006-08-15 02:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by christofle nick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have been sure it was over before you remarried. are there kids involved? i'm a firm believer in keeping the lines of communication open for the kids sake. but first you need to work on the problems in your present marriage. it's unhealthy to think that you can always get a divorce and start over. the buck needs to stop somewhere. stop it now
2006-08-15 02:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by ariesokie55 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why'd you leave your ex? Are you willing to leave another person?
If the reasons to go back to your ex outweigh the reasons you left him in the first place AND the reasons to leave your current outweigh the reasons you are with him - then by all means, go back to the ex.
Otherwise, understand that all grass turns a bit brown after time.
2006-08-15 02:22:29 · answer #9 · answered by ab2li 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you break up with your ex in the first place? You need to take marriage more seriously.
2006-08-15 02:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by Izzy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋