so here I am about to ask along weird question my husband i have been married for over 2 years and a girl that went to school with him tracked him down a year ago and is now playing world of warcraft like he does just to be close to him im not trying to get mad but she is always emailing me and talking about the good old times from high school what should i do?
2006-08-14 19:11:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes i have talked to him when her emails to me started and he quit talking to her until she started to play WOW with him now they talk every night and she is moving to the same place we are when we do next month isn't that conveniant?
2006-08-14 19:43:23 · update #1
well its okay for him to talk to her everyonce in awhile but not daily, looks like shes trying to get with him.
2006-08-14 19:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he is talking to her behind your back and seeing her I really wouldn't bother. A lot of people track old friends and lovers and although it could lead to something you need to trust your husband. Has he ever given you reason to distrust him? The first few years in a marriage are tough but remember that if he truly cherishes the relationship with you he will behave and be a good boy. I always told my husband that if he wanted to cheat on me he could as long as he was honest with me and told me up front that he was going to cheat on me I could handle him doing that more than finding out later he had cheated. At that point our relationship would be over. Of course he never has cheated, God knows he has had the opportunity. I believe you need to keep the lines of communication open. If it truly bothers you then you need to sit down and tell him that you are not comfortable with this behavior. Hopefully he will get the idea. I use to be the jealous type but through the years learned that we should love according to our bond, not more and not less. Love your husband but never love more or less than the love you receive. Give him the benefit of the doubt but make it clear that you do not like this behavior and would like it to stop. I have been married to my husband for 9 years, together for 12, honesty will always be your best ally
2006-08-15 02:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mary F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, funny how he was able to track him down. If i were you, I would talk to your husband and tell him why you feel uncomfortable. Although they do have something in common by playing video games, at least hes not doing anything out of the ordinary with her
2006-08-15 02:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would be upset. But I guess what you should do depends on how much you trust your husband. If you trust him a great deal and believe that they are only friends and talking the past then it may not be a big deal, but if you feel that she is trying to weasel in on your man I would put a fast end to it.
2006-08-15 02:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. FairyLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its bothering you then take it up with your husband. You can always change your email and he can always change his log in. I would just tell him how you are feeling about it. Marriage is a lot about compromise and if it is bothering you then I am sure he will figure a way around it. Your married time to start working as a team.
-NmD!
2006-08-15 02:17:37 · answer #5 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you talked to your husband about her? If you haven't, I think it would be in your best interest to. Just sit him down, and kind of explain to him what you said in your question. say that you're totally not getting mad or anything, tell him not to take it the wrong way, but its kind of irritating to you that he is spending a lot of time with this other girl instead of you...or just that hes spending a lot of time with her, and you would appreciate it if he mabye cut it down a little bit. he should understand. hope this helps! :)
2006-08-15 02:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand why you would have a problem with this. What you need to do is tell your husband how you feel exactly so he knows! I think that he will cut connections with this girl if you really feel strongly about this!
2006-08-15 02:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by jessi7teen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k heres what you do its very easy & VERY affective.First of all she is just reminissing but she may be trying to makeyou jelous & if it wasn't working I wouldn't be reading your question.Anyway,you start to fill her in on how great he is now how happy you both are howhe would never go off with another woman & if any woman wanted they would have to go through you first.Tell her how wonderfull he is to you how romantic he can be sometimes.Jelousy goes both ways girlie!
2006-08-15 02:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by princess joanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him how you feel and that you would not like him to spend so much time with her.And If he continues this behavior seek counseling
2006-08-15 02:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by Steveoooooo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your hubby to end it NOW, because she will eventually find a way to insert herself physically into his life, and then it will be a short step for her to try and bed him.
2006-08-15 02:15:59 · answer #10 · answered by dukefritz79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋