why I am attracted to a guy who is 15 years older than me ( I am in my 30s) and reminds me of some qualities like my father. I approach him for advices all the time like what I always do to my father.
I have a good loving father and I don't see any unsolved problems between me and my father. Is this attraction right and/or normal? Will this relationship work out if it develops into marriage? Anyone has this kind of marriage experience, is it good or bad? Confused and need help.
2006-08-14 19:06:39 · 8 answers · asked by 1001Questions 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is ten years my senior, but this has always been the case for me, even before I married. I was just attracted to older men. I went through counseling years ago for something else with my husband and this issue came up. Turns out, that theory isn't an exact science. It depends upon the person. My father was an alcoholic who treated my mother like crap till the day she died. My husband is nothing like him. The therapist said it had to do more with my maturity level and that my attraction to men was based on how well I could interact with them. Looking back at all my prior relationships, I can see that now. Before I was told that from her, I heard the same things you are hearing now. It's also easy to judge for yourself. If you are just attracted to his intellect and his opinions, then yes, maybe there is that connection for you with the father thing, but if it's more than that, such as physical attraction, then maybe you are just like me. It's not always possible to choose who we fall in love with, nor does it always matter. What matters is your happiness in this relationship and if it works, go with it.
2006-08-14 19:38:23 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just may be that u love and respect your father so u r seeking out a man with many qualities the same as your father. theres nothing wrong with it, just take time 2 figure out if u really wanna marry someone like your father, it may just b a stage your going through or it may b something that u do really want. if its what u really want and what he really wants then theres no reason at all 4 it not 2 work out even if there is an age difference, age is just a number.
2006-08-14 19:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 01:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 01:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Roselyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first answer is pretty good actually. i think we all are attracted to people who posses good qualities of our parents. I would actually appreciate somebody who is like my mother/sister (not lookwise ofcourse). The age difference is nothing actually.. as long as you are above 21 and the guy is not your own father.. you don't need psychological help.
But make sure he isn't currently married :) That would be immoral. But then again 50% of us are doing it. (I fall on the other 50 ofcourse).
2006-08-14 19:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by Vitamin C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem with the differents in your age, at 30+, 15 years older is not that uncommon.
2006-08-14 19:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear,
Why you need to ask question if you really meet someone you love? your heart will have the answer you need.
When you are truely in love, there will be no question! Remember.
2006-08-14 19:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by christofle nick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody is
2006-08-14 19:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋