I broke up with her about a month ago after a sixteen month long relationship. She wants another chance, but I don't know. She hurt me tremendously and althought I still care about her, I don't think I love her nearly as much as I once thought I did. We got a long great, talked a lot about feelings, wants, needs, ect. I told her on several occasions I just didn't feel like she appreciated me. For instance, I did what I feel was darned near everything for her. Anytime I went to her house I cooked, did dishes, laundry, cleaned, and took care of things while she mostly did nothing. I bought groceries a lot and helped pay her bills when I was able. When she came to my place she said she felt like she was on vacation. She never recipracated on any of the things I did for her. I felt lucky if she'd even take me to McDonald's. She never wanted to go out or do anything. Her idea of a good time was sex and sleeping the day away. I was open about how I felt, but nothing ever changed.
2006-08-14 17:47:16 · 12 answers · asked by jax1962 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Nope. You've thought about it, you've communicated it to her, and 16 months is enough of a chance. Let her "vacation" somewhere else!
2006-08-14 17:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are being used and taken advantage of. If you decide to give her another chance I wouldn't commit to her 100%. Let her PROVE to you that she loves you and that you are worth putting some extra effort into. I understand about not being appreciated. I lived that for years and years with my ex. It's time for a change!!!!
2006-08-15 03:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears you can talk your little hearts out, but she won't change. She misses her little "vacations" and you helping her out, not the actual person. You can find someone better who will appreciate the things you do for them.
2006-08-15 00:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ouww... you are so sweet and such a nice person. i guess you shouldn't give her a chance cuz she'll do it again, that's she is, thats her personality, you can't change someone's, you both have to have respect and understand to eachother, but what i get she's selfish, childish and ego.
you deserve a better person, not her. so goodluck dear, just move on!
2006-08-14 19:04:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds Pretty selfish... Id leave things as they are... you dont wanna end up back in it and going through the same thing..
I have this general rule I like to live by...
Screw me over once shame on YOU
screw me over twice....shame on ME
2006-08-14 18:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by Levi Cristopher . 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No don't give her another chance to hurt you, let her find someone else who'll do what you did for her, she did'nt appriecate it so that's her bad luck!
2006-08-14 21:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by ~?~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, no...she doesn't get a second chance. you said you don't think you love her. the relationship sounded one sided and you deserve an equal partner.
2006-08-16 17:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by robyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever hear of a leopard changing her spots?
2006-08-15 03:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by heargodlaugh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have someone better than her shes not the only girl in the world you know theres more fish in the sea
2006-08-14 17:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no, let her go. you will find someone alot better. She sounds like a lazy selfish woman.
2006-08-14 17:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋