He lost his virginity to his ... I hate to say it ... mother. And he liked and still fantasizes about it. What the h e l l ?? How do you take that? What do you say?
2006-08-14 17:44:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey probably no one would like to hear this. But that is not important and also not how any of us reacts. This is about how you react. Is this your bloody limit? If so butt out and don't give it a second thought even. If on the other hand the feelings you have for him are weightier than your disgust with how he got to be who he is and still liking himself despite what others say and think of him, than find a resolve for that. But no matter what don't hide behind the reactions of others to motivate and justify your own reaction. Just follow your own reaction through in this, because that is what matters.
As for a future scope that someone gave on here, people with an incestuous past are no more likely than others to pass this on. They are generally the stronger advocates against incest once they figure out how it put them totally off-balance for a good part of their lives. This could even be an indication here that you SO has trouble admitting that he is somewhat off-balance.
Well back to you, have a good talk with your SO and figure out what is best for you two.
2006-08-14 18:26:35 · answer #1 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow! That would put you in a very akward position. I would have to say that would be a obvious sign of a mental disturbance or some other disorder that you would have to consider being involved with. Sorta like a handicap person, illiterate, drug addict, or criminal. Where do you set a standard to become safe, secure, and stable while trying to reach the most happiest moments of your own lifetime? I think you should help him out as a friend and also let him sort out his own mess. This is serious and probably will not go away; you should determine how "significant" this other person is. He should know from right and wrong and this fantasy should never be entertain but treated. He's sick! Good luck and stay safe!
2006-08-15 01:09:59 · answer #2 · answered by carolinakres 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Um... retreat.
He needs to resolve this on his own. You don't want to compete any more with his mother.
Also, having to deal with a person who's been in an incestuous relationship with his mother (and one that he clearly enjoyed) should speak volumes of his potential to be a healthy father - especially if that's the sort of direction you were hoping for with this relationship.
I say move on, and hope not to run into any more men with the infamous Oedipus complex.
2006-08-15 00:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. Even if you can get over the physical aspect of that, can you say "Mommy Issues" among other deeper issues. I hate to tell you to run and hide from someone that could possibly be an alright guy... (coughs)... but where is this relationship really going? Seriously?
2006-08-15 00:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say good-bye real quick! He has some serious issues to deal with. If his mother forced him or not, she needs to spend the rest of her life in jail. And you would never be sure you could trust him with any children you might have. Try to convince him to get help, and then GET OUT !!!
2006-08-15 01:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by country nana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's just sick and wrong. He probably needs some major psychological help. I'd ask him its that's really ok with him and if he really liked it or if it was forced. He may be suppressing the negative emotions. You want to watch out especially if you have or want to have kids with him. Think about that.
2006-08-15 00:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His mother should be thrown in prison!
I can't believe he thinks this is OK. I would encourage him to go through counseling before I decided to have a relationship with him.
2006-08-15 00:50:14 · answer #7 · answered by Lady J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the h e l l ?? Is right!! I couldn't take it and I wouldn't be able to say anything, but "What the h e l l?"
I totally agree with Olivia B.
2006-08-15 00:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mindi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say get out of that relationship--that is not normal or okay and I would hate to see what he would do with any children you may have with him
2006-08-15 00:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by creative rae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is this a step mother or a biological mother?
if the former, unethical.
if the latter, abso-freakingly abnormal. you'll want to have nothing with this kind of character.
2006-08-15 00:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋