But you stayed because they are all you know? I want to cry right now cause I stayed for all the wrong reasons.
2006-08-14 17:30:47 · 25 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Not looking to bail because there is someone else. He's just not a good father to his kids he hits them and yells at them. It's time I woke up and realize you can't love someone that hurts your kids.
2006-08-14 17:38:23 · update #1
Yes, it's possible to do, but hard to realize.... and hard to change.
Marriage is a strange thing. To promise to love someone for the rest of your life is very different from 'to have and to hold' someone for the rest of your life...two separate ideas in the same oath.
I think it's possible to love someone your whole life and to commit to that....but people change day to day...husbands and wives.....change and learn and grow individually despite each other...to the point where you don't necessarily want to have and hold that person....but still find yourself loving them....but just not in the way you used to...or imagined that you did.
Wish you the best, dear girl.
2006-08-14 17:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by markus 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely and unfortunately. Okay, so it's been 10 years. Do you want it to be 20, 25, 40, 50? I know it's very scary to leave when that's all you know, but believe me you will be soooooo much happier if you can somehow find the courage to leave. Once you do, after awhile you'll discover that it's not so scary after all, and you'll wonder why you waited so long. Yes, you'll cry and doubt yourself at first after you leave, you'll wonder what you've done, if you've done the right thing and you'll cry some more. You'll begin to think that you're a failure and that you've lost all your hopes and dreams. But when you're done feeling and thinking those things and you have a chance to see how things can and should be, you'll know you made the right decision and that you have your whole life in front of you. No, it won't be easy, but nothing worthwhile is easy. Maybe it's time you stand up and fight for yourself, put yourself first.
So ... weigh the pro's and con's of staying indefinitely vs. leaving and taking your chances.
Do you want to cry for a little while after you leave, or do you want to cry indefinitely because you didn't?
I'm sorry you're going through this, and I wish you all the best. You deserve it! Stay strong to yourself.
2006-08-15 00:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's possible. Some people marry for all the wrong reasons and then some people stay together for them too. Sometimes the security of having someone feels better than having no one. If you know for sure you are there for all the wrong reasons, please part. You will only wind up hurting the both of you more in the end. The hurt will get better and you will feel human again. Been there, done that.
2006-08-15 00:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by KIT-KAT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible . But guess what that is part of marriage , but no one tells you that before you get married . Sweetheart I've been married 18 long years and I still feel like what was I thinking, but then I weigh the good versus the bad and the good outweighs the bad . I don't know what is a problem in your marriage , but I will tell you not to make any decisions while you are upset . Try to calm down and sleep on it . Remember this too shall pass . GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU .
2006-08-15 00:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by godsbird2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course.
It happens every day.
10 years is a long time, and people change too.
Ever hear of the 7 year itch?
Are you looking for an excuse to bail out for someone else.
2006-08-15 00:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by BazTheFraz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married for 14 yrs and counting. Ive self that way at times but I know I love him.
Look at the reasons why you are questioning your love and try to change whats going on.
good luck (( HUGS )) its never easy honey not even after 14 yrs,lol
2006-08-15 00:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by wilowdreams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He beats them or spanks them.... Talk to him. You don't give up after 10 years and most men are great fathers when the kids are little cause they can't handle it. Women are good with the kids. When you see your hubby getting ill get the kids to go into the other room. Sounds like normal life to me really. My dad yelled at me every moment he was home and I wasn't abused. He didn't like LITTLE loud kids. lol
If he is beating them get him help.
2006-08-15 00:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is possible, especially if you were in denial about the stability of your relationship before you married. You have become complacent in your situation. Being is a comfort zone isn't always very comfortable.
2006-08-15 01:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES I BELIEVE YOU CAN FOR WHATEVER REASONS IT DOES HAPPEN BUT THE THING NOW YOU HAVE TO DO IS EVALUATE AND IF THE LOVE IS TRULY GONE MOVE ON DON'T WAIT ANOTHER 10 YEARS IT WOULD BE LATE THEN YOU WOULD ALWAYS WONDER HOW IT COULD REALLY BE
2006-08-15 00:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by pink dolphin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is blinding in the begining he may have seemed perfect and that you were in love but later realized that what he is and what you thought he was are two different things. good luck with your problem i hope everything turns out okay.
2006-08-15 00:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by born4purple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋