I have no problem with with dating another guy of another etnicity. But it seems like alot of non-black men are reluctant to date a Black woman. I get suggestive stares form a lot of non-black guys but they seem to be very intimated and taken by my attractiveness and they don't ask me out. Are non-black men afriad of Black women or do they believe in a lot of negative stereotypes?
2006-08-14 17:24:44 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Neither. The flirting signals are getting crossed. You have to give them 'permission' to speak to you, encourage them in small ways.
No huge toothy grin, a shy smile will suffice. Slow down that walk, drop something and wait for it to be picked up. Offer help with homework, be a little helpless now and then.
Go for walks after lunch and casual coffees with guys of other ethnicities. Keep everything light, soft conversation. Let him lead. New territory is a little intimidating, not you personally. Be sensitive and sweet, it's a lot of fun!
2006-08-14 17:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They just may not be ready for the negative attention they will get from the general population. Are you? Depending on how old you are the pressure can be very difficult to deal with from friends, family members and the general public.
Do you live in a diverse area? It would be easier if you do.
I am older now and my interracial relationship is no problem for me. I ignore stares and I also avoid public displays of affection; just because I prefer to be affectionate in private.
As to whether or not they believe in stereotypes, you'd have to find that out by talking to the individual.
The Spike Lee movie was called Jungle Fever; not Jungle Love.
2006-08-15 00:32:00 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you approached any white men? Have you really tried to start a relationship with one? I am from a town that has white men with black women and visa versa. So it isn't unrealistic. So what if people look and or are jealous. It isn't your problem, it is thiers. It just might be that they think that you are so attractive that they automatically think that you are already in a realationship. I think that, that is where the intimadation comes from. All men (or most men) are intimadated by very attractive women, because they think that they can't get someone like that, just because of how they look. So give it a try, and you be the one to start the relationship going. And good luck.
2006-08-15 00:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by free2bkirk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually,
It's my fantasy to date black women, I'm from the middle east and what's is being called here Caucasian.
Therefore, people who negatively believe in interracial dating are close minded and not open to other races. Even though, the color is just a color of the skin and does not mean anything in the personality. They will change once they start hanging out with people "different" then them.
2006-08-15 00:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rali K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait let me start by saying it's nothing wrong with interracial dating!Well it's really sad once ya think about it because some black people are afraid of being black so they they get with a different nationality an all because they think that it's better to be white,Asian or Hispanic then to be what they really are but because of how people in America are we go by hair , skin, eyes an all and some people are afraid of how dark there kids will be and what they will come out looking like I mean don't get me wrong because black people are not the only one that do it but it's it's just kind of sad that's all.I find that if you should ever get with a person it should be because of love an all that ya have for that person and not because of there nationality an what ya think they will act like because a snake is a snake.
2006-08-15 00:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by pret.tprincess4me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the guys in other races are stuck in the sterotypes of black women. You have to kinda flirt back and let them know its ok to talk to you and that you do not fall under those sterotypes. Sometimes they are scared to talk because supposidly black women are too outspoken. Ask them out first instead next time and see where it goes from there.
2006-08-15 10:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, it is actually rare to see a white man with a black woman. I don't know why and have never thought about it. Now black men with white women there are lots..
2006-08-15 00:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know about that. I guess it depends on where they are raised and what they are taught at home.
I would think if two people from differnet ethnicity date, they have real strong feelings/passion for each other because you have to break a lot barriers to cross over that line to date someone out of your ethnicity.
Did you ever see a good movie by Spike Lee called Jungle Love? I recommend it.
2006-08-15 00:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by fullofsunshine 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm engaged to a white guy and I had to approach him. I think it's just as much fear of rejection as anything else. He believed a lot of the negative stereotypes until he met and fell in love with me. Then he saw all that crap for what it was - crap.
2006-08-15 15:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by tubieandthetubes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might have more to do with your perception of yourself ; "Princess" is not a little off putting to say the least....combined with a belief in your own "attractiveness"
and your intimating[sic] much less intimidating demeanor....
Negative stereotypes???? Maybe?
Self-absorbed "princess" ???? Maybe?
I'm too old fashioned..I thought dating was about being with someone that you enjoyed being with...and not an "ethnic" comparison or contest
2006-08-15 00:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Gemelli2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋