He pulled the " you know I'm your husband " when I said someone asked me to keep something quiet that they were embarrassed about.
2006-08-14 17:10:06 · 13 answers · asked by Caramel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a spouse is typically the "ultimate bestfriend", but even they have to realize that not everything (things that don't effect your relationship directly, like someone elses personal matters) aren't their business. but next time, don't bring it up, so he doesn't feel left out. men can be babies ;).
2006-08-14 17:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by lynetteemay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You have an obligation to the person who shared the secret with you. Being married doesn't absolve that trust. You and your husband are not "one" entity. You are two individual people. Your family (blood relatives) have more of a right.
If it's going to cause tension between you and your husband... just don't even let on that you have a secret. That will avoid an argument right off the bat.
My husband sometimes gets upset if I don't' share something with him... but he gets over it. He'll give me an attitude... but I always remind him that I'm just as respectful of his embarrassing secrets. I think they get the point.
2006-08-14 17:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by VixenMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone tells you a secret that doesn't affect your relationship with your husband it is none of his business.
Don't even mention knowing the secret to him. Men are such babies when it comes to that sort of thing.
My husband and I have been together for 20 years and I have kept many secrets from him, because they didn't affect him, he wasn't involved, so it was none of his business.
If they told me something that would affect his and my relationship then I let them know I had to tell him.
You don't have to tell your husband everything, if you do then it will cause problems for the pair of you, I figured this out early in our relationship and just started keeping quiet about things he didn't need to know.
2006-08-14 17:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by evads38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone asks me to keep a secret I ask if it's OK if I share it with my husband. If they say no then I won't let them confide in me.
It's not that "he's my husband" it's that I can't keep secrets from him. LOL
2006-08-14 17:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never accept a secret in the first place. It puts you in an awkward position. The last person you want to tussle with is your hubby and here you are because of a secret.
Secrets are problematic and are not worth the excitement of 'knowing'.
2006-08-14 17:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by ~K~ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has the right to ask, you have the right not to tell. It isn't yours to give away it is the friends and I would simply tell him that. It would be like someone asking you to house sit while they were on vacation, that would give you the right to go in and water plants but not to rent it out for some extra cash while they are away.
2006-08-14 17:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it does not give him the right to know other peoples private life, they trusted you so keep it. Your husband should repect that.
Read a book called EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL its the best thing you can do for yourself.
2006-08-14 17:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by WICCA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he does not. If they wanted him to know they would have told him. He is not your authority. Dont let him give you that crap. He's nosey and controlling. I know the type.
2006-08-14 17:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by JustAGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships are all different but no matter what anyone tells me, i always tell him because i know without a doubt that i can trust him. the question is.. do you trust yours?
2006-08-14 17:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by im so yummy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has the right to ask, you don't have to say yes though.
2006-08-14 17:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋