What would you do if your husband who was suppose to be at a friends house but is at a club doesn't come straight home after you catch him?
2006-08-14 17:08:55 · 24 answers · asked by c1downmama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Communicate with him and let him know that HE is giving you reasons to distrust him. Let him know that marriage is based around trust and honesty and that he is going to places that can drive a wedge that trust. In adddition, married men should not hanging around places where single women are without the consent of his wife. I am a guy and I don't even think it's a good idea to be hanging out at those places.
2006-08-14 17:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by p_boxter03 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my opinion "getting caught" shouldn't be an issue and being made to be held accountable for my actions, especially as innocent as going to a club is just petty.
Straight home? Yikes, no one asked me to come 'straight home' since my mom did in junior high. I'd hesitate too ... and probably fill out my divorce papers on the way home.
It's hard for me to side with you on this one -- sorry.
2006-08-15 00:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to know what I would do but it sounds like you and hubby have some serious trust issues. You had to know something was up or you wouldn't have checked at his friends house. He has something to hide for lying about the club. You two need to sit down and get to the real problem.
2006-08-15 00:14:47 · answer #3 · answered by bcooper1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you expect him to come right home when he obviously lied to you in the first place? Do you really expect a wrong person to do the right thing? The guy lacks character, his actions clearly reflect that so you can't really be surprised when the next thing he does also lacks character.
2006-08-15 00:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know life is less stressful if you're not afraid to lose what you have. You love him, but you can't make him love, respect, or obey you. So with that in mind, focus on what your escape plan is. Even if it never gets to that, you won't be a&*ed out it it does. Stop trying to make him love/respect you and put that energy into loving and respecting yourself. Any grown person is going to do what they want to, so don't let your feelings get hurt by it. Demand respect, if he refuses, as hard as it is, you need to move on. You can do bad by yourself.
2006-08-15 01:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Jazzybinature 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd think that he is trying to figure out a good excuse for his actions, and trying to devise a way to turn this around and make it your fault. You know what you saw, he was busted. Once a dog, always a dog.
I think it's time to consider moving on and leaving.Marriage is supposed to be based on trust, love and consideration.
2006-08-15 00:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Capt'sWife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so selfish.
If hubby wants to go night clubbing with the boys and girls, just make sure his supper is hot when he rolls in.
2006-08-15 00:14:19 · answer #7 · answered by BazTheFraz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably did come straight home because he didn't want to get bitched out....not saying you didn't have the right to ***** at him but that's why. I would probably ask him why he lied and if he gives me some lame excuse...then i would ask who is she? Then we would go from there.
2006-08-15 00:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that I won't tolerate this behavior from him and that if he had wanted to go clubbing he should have let me know so that I could go with him. If it happens again, I would kick him out.
2006-08-15 00:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
did u ask him first why is he there in the first place..maybe they're really at a friend's house then decided later on to go clubbing...if i were u, i'll ask nicely first..let him explain..then sulk..and let him make it up to me..lol
2006-08-15 00:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋