he expects sex when and how he wants it ,so why shouldnt a woman. in a marriage it is supposed to be equal, not only satisfy him and you get left out in the cold. frustrated and alone. why are men so selfish?
2006-08-14 16:52:34 · 20 answers · asked by cmac 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Believe it or not, many men haven't a clue about a woman's anatomy and need to be educated. Don't feel embarrassed about teaching them. You both will benefit if he is sincere in wanting to please you too. Some are just to selfish and are concerned only about their "needs". Find out where they are at in all this-do they really want to please you-then take it from there.
2006-08-14 17:00:48 · answer #1 · answered by marlynembrindle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 02:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be generalizing unless you have more than one husband.
Think back to when you two were first together.
Was he attentive to your needs then? Try thinking about him 'that way' long before you see him again...take a long bath and prepare yourself...do this ahead of time to prepare for a romantic evening. Let him know! Tell him you're thinking of him. Take a pen and draw numbers 1 thru ? where you would like him to kiss you, touch you...make it a romantic adventure and have fun. Maybe you'll start him thinking about something more than slam/bang/bedtime?
2006-08-14 17:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alert, Alert,!!!Women, before you marry make sure your not marrying a man who is selfish and self serving because if he is then he will be that way when you are married. And he will be that way in bed.
Look for a man who loves to please a woman and satisfy her.
And not just while you are dating but when you are engaged.and wait to marry until at least you've been engaged for 6 mos. or more.
2006-08-14 16:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by fullofsunshine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. I have NEVER understood it. I mean, here's this naked woman in bed with me, and she's asking me to play with all her most mysteriously, gloriously feminine parts and pieces -- is this the greatest thing there is, or what? (Well, okay, so when she plays with MY bits, I confess, I like that too...)
I've been married to the same woman for almost 30 years and I STILL love kissing, fondling, rubbing, stroking, massaging, nibbling and licking her, anywhere and everywhere she wants. And when it's turning her on, there is NOTHING as exciting to me as knowing I'm getting her as excited as she's getting me.
For the past few years, my poor wife has had health issues (chronic pain) which make it difficult for her to relax enough to climax as often as she used to. So when she's feeling well enough that she asks me if I would like to play with her, it's like a rare gift for me. (And when she isn't, I get almost as much pleasure out of massaging her to relieve her discomfort temporarily; I'm still stroking her rose-petal skin, she's still moaning with pleasure, we're still in intimate contact -- I just wish I could take all the pain away with a touch.)
And I feel particularly blessed because when she isn't feeling up to climaxing herself, she'll still work to make sure mine is outstanding. I can't get over how lucky I am.
2006-08-14 17:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by Scott F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are like the wild lion and think only of themselves. You have to train them to take care of your needs. Be careful because if you give them too much pressure they will drift away. Talking things over can help but it can also put a wedge in the relationship if it insults his ego. Teach him carefully how to get you where you want to go.
2006-08-14 16:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say men are you implying that you are with alot of men or just your husband. Please don't assume all men are alike. I am nothing like that and love to please a woman first. That is like saying that all men are assholes. Unless you have dated every man in the world then don't say that. Honestly the key is communication. We (men) are not mind readers and are still infected with the neanderthaw gene. I promise you that if you talk to him and tell him what you want that things will change and if they don't them look else where for what you need, and I think you know what I am saying. just my opinion...
2006-08-14 17:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by aj12251974 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most men do not understand the need for foreplay.
Some don;t give a rat's butt for it.
You need to educate him in how to satisfy you.
2006-08-14 16:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its the man. My hubby loves giving me oral. There have been times that he held me down (not abusively) so he could keep giving it to me when I had already gotten off. He won't stop until I am finished.
2006-08-14 17:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are selfish! Some do understand...
2006-08-14 16:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by a b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋