2006-08-14 16:51:57 · 11 answers · asked by cjc679196 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I've discovered that only time can heal.
2006-08-14 16:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by citygurl3592 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make a list of what you know are positive traits about yourself. Post it up on the wall or door and look at it every day. Remember that you're better than what your ex made you believe. Take some time to get over the hurt. When you no longer feel remorse or grief, then it should be okay to start dating again. But just so you don't use anyone on the rebound, take some time first.
2006-08-14 16:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by dimkaluv 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ponder, if you will, how you got in that relationship in the first place. Sometimes it's just by accident. Sometimes it's because we come from what is called a "dysfunctional" family, and we bring a lot of emotional and mental garbage along with us that helps us get in less than favorable relationships. And sometimes,that garbage is what we use to structure the relationship with, so no matter what person you're in a relationship with, your psychological garbage is what's messing it up. Go see a counselor about your garbage, and a possible dysfunctional past, and then see if that doesn't change your approach to dating. I'm a retired counselor with 20+ years experience dealing with just such situations, among other things. I've seen this a million or more times, so I'm assured about that which I speak. God Bless you.
2006-08-14 17:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't think there is a way to get over someone. I was living with my ex-boyfriend for a year and it was an abusive relationship. We broke up often, yet I would always go back to him, because it "hurt" to much to be without him. Finally I got a restraining order on him. It was the worst feeling in the world. I remember sitting in the car, listening to the radio and I would burst out crying because a song that he often listened to was on. I was so upset that I was in pain. I really didn't think I was going to make it. And I kept asking the same question over and over again, "how am I going to get over him?" Probably like two weeks after I woke up and realized that I was over him. Just like your body heals itself so does your psyche. Don't force yourself to try to get over him, it just causes you to think about him more.
2006-08-15 13:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by nh_rvr_chk_88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad he is gone then find out who you are as a person. Once you have decided that you are a person of worth, be sure to focus on finding someone that is good for you and values who you really are. There is no point trying to start dating again until you can be sure that the thing that wasn't good for you from the last one wasn't the thing that attracted you in the first place.
2006-08-14 17:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mick C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get busy enough that you won't have time to think about your ex. Time is the best healer. Go out with friends and maybe even have your friends set you up with someone new and see where it goes, but do take your time cause you don't wanna rush into another relationship. Have fun and good luck!
2006-08-14 16:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just remember to choose next boyfriend wisely. try not to get the same traits these 2 may have had. And there is a lot of good about being single. FREEEEEDOM. ;-)
2006-08-14 17:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind yourself repeatedly why he is no good for you. Do it a thousand times a day, if you have to. "When one door closes...another one opens"...and you will be back in the saddle again, before you know it. Take this time to do nice things for yourself...and time will do the rest.
2006-08-14 16:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by riverhawthorne 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, how brokenhearted can you be if 3 out of 4 of your questions are about your hair? I think you'll be fine.
2006-08-14 17:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are over it, simply by asking or thinking about it.
very extremely and completely over it and should have already moved on. no baggage no remorse. just happy independence and freedom. congrats
2006-08-14 16:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always remember you get what you ask for....( you'll never find the perfect man, if you dont search for him )
2006-08-14 17:05:16 · answer #11 · answered by BRAUNNN 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋