The problem that I am facing is with my youngest daughter Lindi.
Around a year back I had sex with an anonymous guy in a local pub.
I didn't know his name bcoz I was drunk. He contacted mefew days ago(I gave him my address but it's now he is contacting) and claiming my baby. What I can do?
Saved 5 years ago by our Lord Jesus. Blessed by his love. A loving single mom of 4 children--Andy(4 years), Sam(3 years),Jane(3 years) and Lindi(1 week).
PS--Recently Lord Jesus provided me with a loving Christian guy whom I met in yahoo answers. But He seems to be very hot-headed.
Should I tell him? I am afraid that He will make potato-mash with that guy if I tell him.
2006-08-14 16:43:36 · 17 answers · asked by christian_wondergirl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Royalty
You talk like a devout Christian but your conduct is contrary to the Christian code for having slept with a stranger in a state of inebriated mood. Now what is your legal problem, if some one is claiming the child to be his. Assuming that his claim is right the child can not be separated from the mother till it is in a position to take a decision as to with whom she would like to stay. Then at that stage a DNA test can confirm his fatherhood and he has to bear the cost for her upbringing. You can not have any claim on him for having impregnated you out side wedlock.
2006-08-14 18:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't mind taking advice from an atheist - here goes.
In the first place, you should be getting legal advise from a lawyer - NOT from Yahoo Answers.
The following is my opinion - and my opinion only.
The next time your anonymous guy shows up, you should get all of his contact information; name, address, place of work, etc. Then you should go to the POLICE and get a cease and desist order. Then have the cops pay him a visit.
As for your boyfriend? Whether you tell him or not is your business, but your relationship will not go anywhere if you continue living a lie. If your boyfriend is the kind of person that beats the crap out of people, then you should find out about it BEFORE you make any commitments - NOT AFTER.
If he goes to jail then so be it.
And I think you should cut the Jesus crap as well.
2006-08-17 15:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by Techguy2396 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if this is the guy you slept with around the time that you got pregnant, then odds are that he is her father. And despite your new found religion, you do not have the right to decide for all involved that she should not know her father, and that he should not know his daughter. You should be thankful that he wants to be involved with his child, most would run the other way at the idea of a child. If he wants to push it he can petition the court to make you submit your daughter to a DNA test to confirm paternity. And if it gets too ugly, he could go after custody, best bet is to be as amicable as possible and get along, this is best for you, but beyond that is is BEST for your daughter.
As far as your loving Christian guy-he is not involved in this. He may be involved with you, but as far as your daughter and her father go, he needs to stay out of it. Him getting into the middle and making things worse and more tense will not help anyone. You and your child's father need to work something out, WITHOUT the outside help of others who think they have a say in what happens.
2006-08-14 16:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lets cut the lord Jesus crap and cut to the chase you had a drunken fling in the pub with a Mr X who claims that he is the father of your child which you haven't said if he is or he isn't. if he is then he has rights too. if he is not then get blood tests and prove he is not, as for the lord Jesus and your new fella god i feel sick!!! your actions in the pub were before you met this guy and you should have no secrets from him, especially one as serious as this.i know you feel full of Divine intervention right now!! perhaps the lord may provide you with a good solicitor! but i doubt it. so look one up. although i am not a father myself i believe strongly in fathers for justice and a child's rights to know its father and not just be pumped up with religious voodoo cos you feel the lord saved you which is your right! but it should not be forced on others. if he is such a loving christian guy pray may i ask why does he have a hot head? i was brought up a Christian but have seen death and destruction with my own eyes and didn't see god anywhere on the battlefield. but i remain a placid person in control and at peace with myself what i believe in is between me and god and we will sort that out on my judgement day, by my actions on earth. not by how much i jumped up and down and said praise be the lord jesus that im afraid will not buy you a place in heaven. sort your earthly problems out first and think about the lord Jesus at the right times and you might get things sorted.
2006-08-17 10:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by omnigomni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sister, I pray that you will seek spiritual as well as legal guidance.
As for legal help, he would have to prove through a blood test that he was the father. He would also have to prove himself a better parent than you are (in the eyes of the court) to get custody. For legal advice, consult a lawyer.
As for meeting someone in Yahoo Answers, it sounds like your life is complicated enough without adding a hot-headed entanglement -- your first priority should be taking care of the children that God has entrusted to your care.
As for your spirituality, please read The Bible (New Testament, Gospel of Matthew) for the meaning of "Christian" and guidelines for Christian behaviour. It doesn't include hanging out in bars, getting dead drunk, and having sex with strangers.
2006-08-14 16:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by mother_jazz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you're professing to be so Christian, how are you going to be getting less than the effect of alcohol in a community pub and having sex with an nameless guy. looks the Christian morals have lengthy gone out the window...you opt to have a paternity try executed. If the round a three hundred and sixty 5 days back grow to be actually 9 months; he might want to ok be your toddler's daddy. when you've the paternity try, you may want to likely communicate making use of birth control. it truly is remarkable to be a mom, yet i imagine 4 children is a large responsibility for any mom; exceptionally a unmarried one. i will pray for you.
2016-11-25 01:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See your doctor and/or lawyer. Legalities can be very difficult.
As for your new BF, the soldier in Christ guy ... well he has written (or he tried to) all about having sex with you, so be prepared to have your business spread from one end of the net to the next. Pssst, wanna know something? He is still gay. He's just going thru a phase now and he likes to sound important. Keep your doors locked. Good luck.
2006-08-15 13:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by LaRue 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well congrats on the salvation, the answer is simple get a paternity test. If the child is his he has right to see him unless you can prove he is unfit. I hope you make out well, just remember through out it all, God has a plan for you and your kids and it is usually not what we have in mind, not even close.
2006-08-15 16:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you may not have got a handle on this Christianity thing yet. Get advice from the local law center - it's free.
2006-08-15 10:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
saved 5 yrs ago... got sh!tfaced and knocked up 1 yr ago. now you are bald with a temper-MENTAL christian boy that will beat up rather than forgive.
get an attorney, tell your b/f, stop having kids, and apologize to Jesus
2006-08-14 16:51:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋