Gay parenting?

Question

I just overheard a conversation one of my relatives was having with someone, in which she claims that homosexuals should not have the right to adopt children. If you share this view, please tell me why. Intelligent and rational answers please. (If you post any homophobic remarks here, I will report you.)

Answer 1

I feel compelled to share a story about this. Last year I was mentoring an 8th grader who had a foster dad -- the guy was single, and my mentee knew that he only took on three or four foster kids for the money the state gave him. (The kid was pretty precocious for an 8th grader.) His foster father was a terrible person. Broke the younger kid's arm and told the other kids that if they told social services (or whatever agency supervises their care and placement) he would break their arms as well. So they all got their lies straight and told the counselors that the little boy hurt himself when he fell down the stairs.

From that point on I vowed someday to have a foster kid of my own so they wouldn't be raised by a--holes like that. However, the state I live in (Texas, ya-hooo!) has recently tried to ban gay foster parenting. This saddens and terrifies me as a gay man. Why should two people who love each other and are willing to go through the expense and trouble of getting a child be deprived of the right to have one?

And I also don't understand why granting parental rights to a same-sex couple gives them "special rights." It's a matter of EQUAL rights, and it's written in the same document that lets you all carry your concealed weapons in some states.

I'm sorry that I really didn't answer your question because you wanted someone to explain the logic behind the opposite viewpoint but I couldn't resist. God bless!

Answer 2

Can we look at the BIG picture here? I realize not everyone believes In God ,that don`t mean he don`t exsist. The bible says its an abomination for 2 men, or 2 women to have sex, thats why sodom and gamorrah was destroyed, then their is the aids thing, and it don`t matter what we think , its proof that gays get it more often the straight people, then the big one, Is there any reason why you can not have your own children, other then the fact that it takes a man and a woman to produce children, that should be your first clue right there, that it wasen`t meant for men and women to be with their own sex. ANd your right there are lots of sraight people out there that didn`t do such a great job raising kids, that could be why you see more people claiming to be homosexuals today then ever before.WHAT IF we were all gay life would be short for humans, wouldn`t it, ?theworld wouldn`t have lasted as long as it has. and if we raise kids to think this is right, then there may come a day when that truly happens.

Answer 3

There are SO many children (and pets) that need and want good homes and a loving family. Anybody that is a good person and wants to be a parent should be able to adopt children. All they need is love and a home would be nice. Gay, lesbian, bisexual, and straight people make fine parents, it's the person not the group you should look at.

Plus there are many people that say that but are unwilling to adopt a child themselves, so where do they think these unwanted children go? Don't you think a loving home with a family of good people is better then no home at all, even if you don't like their "lifestyle"? Think about it. Thousands and thousands of kids don't have homes right now. What are you doing to help them? What should you be doing to help?

Answer 4

I am a lesbian who has two beautiful daughters. I share my girls with my partner of 8 years. Their father is active in their lives as well. I know that it takes more than just two straight parents to raise children.

It takes two loving people with morals and respect to teach another human being what it takes to be a productive person in life. Straight parents have kids all the time and they are raised on the streets and are taught to be menace to society.

No this is not true in all cases. But this is my example that not everyone is a good parent or that they have what it takes to raise a child.

If Gay couple can raise, support a happy family, why should anyone have the right to say they cant adopt and give that child another chance at life that a straight couple couldn't give it.

Answer 5

I'm going to paste an article I found, your relatives may think of maybe rape ?? Anyways here it goes ....Work being undertaken by the Medical Research Council at present suggests that a child is most likely to be raped by a close relative (including step-relatives and guardians); a teacher or other authority figure, such as a pastor; or a neighbour, and very much in that order. These findings are borne out by other organizations. Facts like these run directly counter to the monster myth at the same time that the moral imperative of this myth is at its strongest. This also means that the retrogressive rhetorical strategies that the public resorts to as a means of expressing shock, grief and rage, are thwarted. Both the media and community groupings show the same baffled frustration: if a child or baby is raped, how do they bay for the death penalty or resort to other available rhetorical strategies (“castrate the bastards, let them rot in jail, throw away the key”, and so on) if it is known that the victim’s step-father or older brother was responsible? What does one say when the perpetrator is another child? A much-loved teacher or priest?.........................No article can be found about gay parents raping their kids, so its ignorance on their part!

Answer 6

I don't agree, but I do think that children whose parents are homosexual face a lot of challenges that other kids don't. They probably stand to be teased a lot, and it will take them more effort to understand relationships and their parents. Still, I don't think we have the right to make such a judgement. I know at least two gay couples with kids, and they are marvelous families. I just think the couple should really think hard about it, because their child will face a lot of road blocks that they would not otherwise.

And furthermore, who says that the only people who can't have children are homosexuals? What about barren couples who want children? Do we refuse them the right to adopt just because they can't have kids naturally? Silly.

Answer 7

Recent long-term studies on gay/lesbian parenting are out now. The results are that kids with same sex parents fair the same as those with straight parents pretty much across the board. The biggest statistical exception is that kids with same sex parents had a slightly better sense of self, a little more self-confidence, and were more open to differences in the world. Further, the number of kids that realized they were gay or lesbian was the same percentage in both the same and opposite parenting populations. The more numerous shorter-term studies that kids in lesbian/gay parent families fair better than those in straight families, by the way.

Sorry, I don't believe in homophobic view of your relativs so I can't explain it beyond prejudice, fear, ignorance, etc, etc, etc. But, you did post your question here in the LGBT section for a reason, right? :-)

Answer 8

I watch adoption stories on the Discovery Health Channel. They show gay parents in a good light. They seem to be loving and caring parents. I have heard of straight parents abusing children, never gay parents.

Straight parents raise gay children. So, can't gay parents raise straight children? I am straight, but I believe as long as children are loved and properly cared for that's all that matters.

Answer 9

Delores,
I watched my dad become an alcoholic, not pay bills, not put food on the table, I watched my mom get beat up by other husbands and boyfriends, so is this what I should teach MY children???

My 9yr old daughter has watched her mom & stepmom work together to build a home, fix things, clean the kitchen together, share responsibility and respect each other......

so which is better for a child??

Answer 10

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